Summary of “The simple art of not being miserable”

Living in his presence, after many more years of unrest and suffering from all the seeking, Siddhartha eventually, in a sudden moment, finds himself at peace.
“When someone seeks,” said Siddhartha, “Then it easily happens that his eyes see only the thing that he seeks, and he is able to find nothing, to take in nothing because he always thinks only about the thing he is seeking, because he has one goal, because he is obsessed with his goal. Seeking means: having a goal. But finding means: being free, being open, having no goal.”
Happiness-or more accurately, a lack of unhappiness-is a product of the relationship that exists between our subjective expectations and the objective reality.
Over the long-term, a feeling of peaceful contentment comes down to the objective reality giving us more than our subjective expectations.
Many of these things are far more negotiable than we make them.
Sure, making more money may make your life better off, and of course, winning that prize or capturing the praise of someone you admire can be life-affirming, but if there is a world of people who can live completely in peace without these things-and there almost always is, no matter what it is you desire-the chances are that you can, too.
The simple reason is that before you desire an answer, you have to first define what you are looking for.
We have to learn to let go of the incompatible subjective expectations that we rigidly anchor to reality so that we can recast new ones in a more suitable direction, slowly getting away from the seeking to the finding.

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