Summary of “I cut off all contact with my mother. It made my life much better.”

“What if she dies and you’re still estranged? How will you feel?” My mother died three years after our official estrangement, and my only regret is that I didn’t do it earlier.
For us, estrangement isn’t a problem; it’s a solution to a problem, a response to an otherwise unsolvable dilemma.
More than three-quarters of the participants in one study felt estrangement had made a positive difference in their lives.
A third said, “There really are cases where estrangement is the better course. It’s horrific, it’s sad, it’s tragic, and it’s better than the alternative.”
The most recent research suggests that up to 10 percent of mothers are estranged from at least one adult child, and that about 40 percent of people experience family estrangement at some point.
Most people fall somewhere less definitive on the estrangement continuum, a term coined by Scharp, one of the few researchers who studies the phenomenon.
In my experience, estrangement makes people deeply uncomfortable.
Estrangement, on the other hand, just might be saving their lives.

The orginal article.