Summary of “How to Be a Better Friend in the Digital Age”

“We see our friends, and our friends see us, with a clarity that other people don’t-not even our romantic partners,” says Lauren Mechling, whose novel How Could She explores the complexities of female friendship.
Social media has turned friend into a verb, not just a thing that we are but a thing that we do-or undo, as in the Orwellian-sounding unfriend.
That’s the spirit in which we crafted our guide to being a better friend in the digital age.
If your friend is dealing with something big-divorce, a death, a troubled child, a career shift-your job is to be with her in person or at least call.
Pandora’s Email: An incendiary message that delves into all the faults of a friend you’re angry at-which you accidentally send directly to said friend.
One reason is simply that we know our friends so well: Research has shown that we’re better at describing our friends’ creative skills and intelligence levels than they are themselves.
“I had a friend in high school who was brilliant and very bossy,” says Roz Chast, illustrator of Why Don’t You Write My Eulogy Now So I Can Correct It?, a collaboration with longtime friend and writer Patty Marx.
“I didn’t ask because I thought, It’s not going to be a good reason. It’s not ‘I love you so much that I can’t bring myself to talk to you.’ And eventually, she started talking to me again.The Companion Commandments.Thou shalt not post a photo in which your friend has a double chin or is holding a margarita in a foot-tall plastic cup with a crazy straw.Thou shalt not leave effusive, encouraging comments on the post of your dear friend’s enemy or ex.Thou shalt not divulge personal details on a friend’s Facebook page, no matter how badly you’re wondering,”how did Gary’s vasectomy go??”.

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