Summary of “4 Common Reasons Husbands Resent Their Wife”

Here’s the complicated brew of feelings actually at play when you feel like you hate your wife, according to experts, and what to do if you want to save your relationship.
“Every long term relationship has the opportunity to become a breeding ground for resentment, hurt feelings, anger, disappointments,” says Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, marriage counselor, therapist, and life coach.
Bobby points out that many wives resent their husbands because “They often feel frazzled, frustrated, and resentful about the higher level of mental energy and material energy they are expected to devote to their household, career and families.” That can leave her little room for some soul-replenishing me-time, let alone you-and-she time.
“Male anger tends to be rooted not in frustration over tasks and responsibilities, but in a longing for love, fun, meaning, and a desire for a deeper connection with their partner. All of which they feel increasingly cut off from.”
“What I’ve often seen in my marriage counseling and couples therapy practice is that men are more likely than women to feel emotionally neglected by their partners,” Bobby says.
“When men lose any sense of their value, the feeling of failure or inadequacy can seep into everything,” D’Angelo continues.
“For women, the first step is often understanding, sometimes for the first time, that their husbands are just as in need of love, affection, and compassion as they are. Many women I talk to have little awareness that their husbands are craving hugs and kisses, time and attention, empathy, and to simply feel like they’re enjoying each other.”
Feeling too angry to even know where to begin talking to your wife about it? D’Angelo says seeing a therapist on your own is the best place to start.

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