Summary of “Finding our way to true belonging |”

“Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
Once we belong thoroughly to ourselves and believe thoroughly in ourselves, true belonging is ours.
Belonging to ourselves means being called to stand alone – to brave the wilderness of uncertainty, vulnerability and criticism.
The special courage it takes to experience true belonging is not just about braving the wilderness, it’s about becoming the wilderness.
It’s not the belonging that comes with just joining a group.
We want true belonging, but it takes tremendous courage to knowingly walk into hard moments.
True belonging is not something you negotiate externally, it’s what you carry in your heart.
Excerpted with permission from the new book Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone by Brené Brown.

The orginal article.