Summary of “Don’t Change Yourself. Improve Yourself.”

You might know yourself, but you’re not BEING yourself.
The reason is that we somehow feel we have to be different people in different situations.
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
We really live in a world that tries to turn you into something you’re not.
Too often people just try to rebel and say that other people don’t get them.
“The conclusion bears repeating: Do not try to change yourself - you are unlikely to succeed. But work hard to improve the way you perform.”
Who do you NOT want to be? The whole ‘do not try to change yourself’ idea took me many years to apply in my life.
Because that’s one of the few things in life that’s really worth it.

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Summary of “The Most Important Skill for 21st-Century Students Is the Discipline to Say “No””

Can you code? Speak a second language? How high is your IQ? There’s much debate on what students need most to succeed in an increasingly competitive world.
The challenges of automation, globalization, and political upheaval leave out the fact that we’re living an age of information overload. According to CNN’s Fareed Zakaria, the one thing that children will need to learn is “Intellectual discipline.” The ability to recall facts and parrot popular arguments has become obsolete.
In a panel on “Education in the Post-Truth World” at WISE 2017’s summit for education, Zakaria contrasts how the barrage of media effect how young people take in and process information.
In other words, students need to return to the fundamentals of education where you question the information and the source, which allows you to gain a greater understanding.
The report concludes: “Overall, young people’s ability to reason about the information on the Internet can be summed up in one word: bleak.”
Our primary sources of information come from the internet and social media but this, in turn, becomes a minefield for sorting out fact from fiction.
We’re at an inflection point where paring down and drilling deep into information is going to be a necessity.
The future is always uncertain but what seems clear is that one of the most powerful tools anyone can harness is the single-minded pursuit of mastering how to seek the truth from information.

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Summary of “The blissful and bizarre world of ASMR”

People watch ASMR videos in hopes of eliciting the response, usually experienced as a deeply relaxing sensation with pleasurable tingles in the head. It can feel like the best massage in the world – but without anyone touching you.
Even a video of someone’s hands can trigger ASMR – your brain has evolved to read that as a caring person demonstrating a helpful skill or valuable item.
A 2016 study found differences between the brain connections of those who experience ASMR and those who don’t.
In a recently published study, my coauthors and I reported what happened in the brains of 10 volunteers while they experienced ASMR. Participants watched their favorite ASMR videos while lying still inside a functional magnetic resonance imaging scanner.
ASMR videos may be tapping into our natural ability to be soothed by the sights and sounds our brains associate with caring individuals.
Can ASMR be experienced without the stimulus of another person? Some people do report being able to stimulate ASMR in themselves by clearing their minds, focusing on themselves, focusing on loved ones, or thinking about ASMR triggers.
It’s not yet known why just some individuals experience ASMR, what neurotransmitters and hormones are involved in ASMR, or how the effectiveness of ASMR compares to other current clinical treatments for anxiety, insomnia, and depression.
Figuring out more about the biology and benefits of ASMR should make the world a calmer place.

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Summary of “Exit Interview: I Was a Black, Female Thru-Hiker on the Appalachian Trail”

Only about a quarter of thru-hikers are women, according to the Appalachian Trail Conservancy, and though there’s little information about the racial breakdown of thru-hikers, it’s safe to say that the vast majority of them are white.
Last year, Rahawa Haile, a writer now based in Oakland, California, became one of the very few black women to attempt to hike the entire trail.
Part of your plan for your hike was to bring books by black authors with you and leave them along the trail.
I attempted to create a library of black excellence along the Appalachian Trail.
Haile brought books by black authors to vistas along the trail.
It’s not the trail that’s the problem with the trail.
There were sections of trail where it’s just rocks and copperheads and where it doesn’t look like a trail at all.
Recently I started looking up PCT hikes, and when I looked up photos, I was shocked, like, that looks like an actual trail! A guy I hiked with up north does trail maintenance in Colorado, and he said that often the Appalachian Trail follows the fall line, so you just have this crazy jumble of rocks to climb down.

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Summary of “Are You Emotionally Intelligent? Here’s How to Know for Sure”

While many people might describe themselves as simply feeling “Bad,” emotionally intelligent people can pinpoint whether they feel “Irritable,” “Frustrated,” “Downtrodden,” or “Anxious.” The more specific your word choice, the better insight you have into exactly how you are feeling, what caused it, and what you should do about it.
Emotionally intelligent people are flexible and are constantly adapting.
Emotionally intelligent people don’t just understand emotions; they know what they’re good at and what they’re terrible at.
Emotionally intelligent people distance themselves from their mistakes, but do so without forgetting them.
Emotionally intelligent people build strong relationships because they are constantly thinking about others.
Holding onto a grudge means you’re holding onto stress, and emotionally intelligent people know to avoid this at all costs.
Emotionally intelligent people won’t set perfection as their target because they know that it doesn’t exist.
Emotionally intelligent people separate their thoughts from the facts in order to escape the cycle of negativity and move toward a positive, new outlook.

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Summary of “Confessions of a Failed Self-Help Guru”

“Many of these people are no more qualified to dole out life lessons than you or I.”.
Yes, getting asked to do interviews and appearances means people actually care about your book, or at least some producer or event organizer facing a hole in their programming schedule does.
Rather than follow any of the aforementioned advice, I zigzagged along like the harried freelancer I’d become, rushing from column deadline to media interview to public event and back again, trying to keep both my Amazon ranking and checking account from tanking, often pulling all-nighters to keep up.
Writing a book about creating a self-styled career you love had led me straight to a job I hated.
Sunday evenings now gave me the same fetal-position dread my book claimed to help readers avoid.
People with unfathomable health problems and insurmountable piles of medical bills.
One career advice columnist I knew had received letters from people asking if their family still could collect on the life insurance policy if the letter-writer committed suicide.
Responsibility to not try to solve people’s problems you are in no way equipped to fix.

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Summary of “Stop Apologizing For Being Yourself”

Because let’s face it, you and I both know that we all have two personalities, who live two different lives.
There’s the life we want to live, and then there’s the life we’re actually living.
“Hey Darius, do you think I should stop being silly so that people take me seriously?”.
Look, you’re not going to die alone when you become yourself 24/7. It’s not only a waste of energy, but it’s also a waste of LIFE, if you’re not living it on your terms.
Because what’s the alternative? Do you want to shut down your true personality and become some robot that’s programmed by society or other people?
Over the past few years, I’ve been gradually living life on my terms.
If you’re an artist, you don’t have to be like Van Gogh.You’ll get what you want when you are yourself.
I can tell you from personal experience that being yourself is the most liberating thing in life.

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Summary of “31 Ways to Improve Your Life in Just a Month”

Remind yourself frequently that the purpose of your life is not to work 10 hours per day, five days per week for 30 years, then retire to a golf course in Florida.
Day 6: Stop getting the attention and focus it on other people.
Day 14: Journal about three new things you are grateful for.
Psychologist Shawn Achor told Oprah that you train your brain to be optimistic if you do this for 21 days in a row: Each day, write down three new things you are grateful for.
Day 23: Have lunch with someone, and listen to that person selflessly.
Day 25: Look at people in the eye, smile, and say hello.
Elderly people have a rich and long history full of stories, experiences, and perspectives you’ve never thought of from simpler days gone by.
What would your life look like if you practiced some of these things everyday, extending this plan beyond a 31-day cycle? It just might help you live the life you’ve always wanted rather than settling for whatever comes your way.

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Summary of “How to Make the Right Connections When You Don’t Already Have an “In””

What if you don’t know the right people who can help you?
Perhaps you’re new to your field, or you’ve changed locations – but regardless of the reason, the problem is the same: if you’re starting with the wrong connections, how can you hope to work your way into the right ones? That’s a challenge I discuss in my new book Entrepreneurial You, and here are four strategies to consider.
Your existing contacts likely want to help you – they just don’t know how, especially if your new realm is outside their area of expertise.
You could say, “I’d love to consult for Google one day. Do you know anyone who works there that you might be able to introduce me to?” Or you could sort by title and tell your friends, “I’m interested in making connections with anyone you know who is a vice president of human resources. Do you know anyone with that role?”.
People’s level of closeness to their LinkedIn contacts varies; be prepared for them to say they don’t actually know the person well, or at all.
Next, be willing to accept “Six degrees of separation.” Of course, it’s much easier when your friends know the right people and can introduce you directly.
Finally, you can create content to attract the right people to you.
I didn’t know those people, and I didn’t even know the people who knew them.

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Summary of “We’ve Reached Peak Wellness. Most of It Is Nonsense.”

Emotional: Don’t Hide Your Feelings, Get Help When You Need It. Another big issue with what passes for modern-day wellness is that it creates the impression that everyone is happy all the time and that you should be, too.
A recent poll from the market research company YouGov found that 30 percent of millennials say they feel lonely and 22 percent said they have zero friends.
People with fit mindsets tend to overemphasize their initial feelings, search for perfection, and quit when the going gets tough.
An app called Track Your Happiness has allowed thousands of people to report their feelings in real time.
A study published earlier this year in JAMA Network Open found that people without a strong life purpose-defined as a sense of feeling rooted in your life and taking actions toward meaningful goals-were more than twice as likely to die between the years of the study compared with people who had one, even after controlling for things like gender, race, wealth, and education level.
The work of Dacher Keltner, a professor of psychology at the University of California at Berkeley, has shown time and time again that experiencing awe-watching a beautiful sunset, listening to moving music, witnessing a master at their craft-leads to self-transcendence and feelings of spiritual connection.
Worship your own body and beauty and sexual allure, and you will always feel ugly, and when time and age start showing, you will die a million deaths before they finally plant you.
On a macro level, ask yourself these questions: Do I live in a place that feels unlivable? Does my commute totally suck my soul? I’m aware that I’ve got a lot of privilege to suggest moving geographically, but the kind of move I’m suggesting is one away from crazily expensive, competitive, and congested cities.

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