Summary of “Stop Trying To Do Everything”

There’s one important thing about all this working, hustling, striving, and achieving more: You can’t do everything at the same time.
So if you take on too many things, you end up spread too thin.
Success Adds Up. Real success happens when we focus on one thing at a time.
“Where I’d had huge success, I had narrowed my concentration to one thing, and where my success varied, my focus had too.”
Are you working on a lot of things? Is your attention not on one thing? There’s a big chance that you will not achieve the best possible results.
Another thing: Buffett acquired 99% of his net worth after he became 50.
You can achieve big things with small actions, that build up over time.
If you want to see the impact of compounding in your own life, it requires you to focus on one thing at a time and always look at the bigger picture.

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Summary of “Every Successful Relationship Is Successful for the Same Exact Reasons”

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“You are absolutely not going to be absolutely gaga over each other every single day for the rest of your lives, and all this ‘happily ever after’ bullshit is just setting people up for failure. They go into relationships with these unrealistic expectations. Then, the instant they realize they aren’t ‘gaga’ anymore, they think the relationship is broken and over, and they need to get out. No! There will be days, or weeks, or maybe even longer, when you aren’t all mushy-gushy in-love. You’re even going to wake up some morning and think,”Ugh, you’re still here.
A couple years ago, I discovered that I was answering the vast majority of these relationship emails with the exact same response.
Just as causing pain to your muscles allows them to grow back stronger, often introducing some pain into your relationship through vulnerability is the only way to make the relationship stronger.
Every relationship requires each person to consciously choose to give something up at times.
Generally, the more uncomfortable we are with our own worthiness in the relationship and to be loved, the more we will try to control the relationship and our partner’s behaviors.
A similar concept seems to be true in relationships: your perfect partner is not someone who creates no problems in the relationship, rather your perfect partner is someone who creates problems in the relationship that you feel good about dealing with.
Sex not only keeps the relationship healthy, many readers suggested that they use it to heal their relationships.

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Summary of “What It’s Like to Be Allergic to Corn”

Becca, who writes Corn Allergy Girl, also gets a lot of her produce from local farms.
The diet of someone with a severe corn allergy is in some ways the ideal diet for a certain type of foodie: fresh, local, free of preservatives and processed foods, the provenance of every ingredient intensely cataloged.
Knowing how to avoid foods with corn is one thing; knowing how to navigate social situations where danger lurks in every corner is another.
Cassandra Wiselka, whose 5-year-old is allergic to corn, has written about the problem of Halloween.
Virtually all mass-produced candy contains high-fructose corn syrup.
It’s hard to say exactly why, but Wiselka noticed that “In Germany, things are a lot less processed, food-wise. At least not processed as much with things like corn.”
When she dives, she has to watch out for a few specific things-that her wetsuit has not been washed with a corn-containing detergent, that her dive partners have not been eating corn chips.
Sure, scuba diving can kill you if you aren’t careful, but she can be sure there is no corn in water.

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Summary of “How to Escape the Overthinking Trap: Stop Judging Yourself”

We are the only species that can really think “Offline” – wrapped up in things that haven’t yet happened or things that are long gone but can never be changed.
Critical thinking has undoubtedly advanced our cause and become one of the essential assets of being so brilliantly human, but introspective thinking – our near constant self-evaluation, who we are, where we fit, how we compare – is becoming one of the most destructive aspects of modern life.
We are in thrall to the rigid, judgmental thoughts we think about ourselves, prisoners of the sinewy web of cogitation that tells us we are strong, clever, important, unassertive, patriotic, hopeless, old, fat, hard done by, forgotten – when actually we may be many of these things rolled into one.
Our obsessive thinking about ourselves even informs the air of political revolt that made 2016 such a big turning point.
It embeds personal misery in an era in which we are tempted, even encouraged, to compare ourselves with other people: the teenager who feels low because of what her Instagram feed makes her think; the thwarted youngster, demoralised by the success of others; the employee who feels insecure because she thinks the boss blanked her on the stairwell; the hypochondriac who thinks he is dying of everything.
Too much of our behaviour is determined not by how things are, but how we think things are.
How to cultivate that sense of detachment from a poisonous, unhelpful or just plain wrong stream of thinking? Visual clues can help: a post-it on a computer screen or a screensaver on a phone.
Instead of ruining our short time alive by setting expectations of how we think everything should be, from our jobs to our love lives, our children to our prospects, let us accept that some things will not always go as we wish.

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Summary of “Have Aliens Found Us? An Interview with the Harvard Astronomer Avi Loeb About the Mysterious Interstellar Object ‘Oumuamua”

On October 19, 2017, astronomers at the University of Hawaii spotted a strange object travelling through our solar system, which they later described as “a red and extremely elongated asteroid.” It was the first interstellar object to be detected within our solar system; the scientists named it ‘Oumuamua, the Hawaiian word for a scout or messenger.
The first one is that we didn’t expect this object to exist in the first place.
If we assume all planetary systems around other stars are doing the same thing, we can figure out what the population of interstellar objects should be.
So we checked that and found that you need the thickness of the object to be less than a millimetre in order for that to work.
The point is that this is the very first object we found from outside the solar system.
My motivation, in part, is to motivate the scientific community to collect more data on the next object rather than argue a priori that they know the answer.
We have seen an object from outside the solar system, and we are trying to figure what it is made of and where it came from.
If you put the probability at zero per cent of an object coming into the solar system, you would never find it!

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Summary of “50 Ways To Live On Your Own Terms”

Research done by economists have found - even after controlling for age, education, and other demographics - that married people make 10 to 50 percent more than single people.
Say “No” to people, obligations, requests, and opportunities you’re not interested in from now on”No more yes. It’s either HELL YEAH! or no.” - Derek Sivers.
According to neuroscience research, the more you express love, the more other people feel love for you.
Make friends with five people who inspire you”Surround yourself with people who remind you more of your future than your past.” - Dan Sullivan.
Even more fundamental is: what types of people are you comfortable around?
Unless you live in a big city, I’m baffled how many people pay outlandish amounts on rent each month.
Instead of living life on their own terms, they’d rather respond to other people’s agendas.
According to psychological research, people who make their bed in the morning are happier and more successful than those who don’t.

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Summary of “How To Beat Procrastination”

Procrastination has been around since the start of modern civilization.
Historical figures like Herodotus, Leonardo Da Vinci, Pablo Picasso, Benjamin Franklin, Eleanor Roosevelt, and hundreds of others have talked about how procrastination is the enemy of results.
The funny thing about procrastination is that we all know that it’s harmful.
Even compare procrastination to alcohol and drug abuse.
Procrastination is a habit that just sneaks into your system.
“The present evidence suggests that procrastinators enjoy themselves rather than working at assigned tasks, until the rising pressure of imminent deadlines forces them to get to work. In this view, procrastination may derive from a lack of self-regulation and hence a dependency on externally imposed forces to motivate work.”
The truth is: Procrastination has nothing to do with what you’re trying to do – small or big, it can wait until later.
Systems Do. What you really need is a system for doing work.

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Summary of “Stop Wasting Your Hard-Earned Free Time”

Please answer me this: Why do we work 8-9 hours a day so that we can earn free time, while we endlessly waste that hard-earned free time?
I thought about how I invested my time: About two and a half hours on the train each day, working a job I wasn’t passionate about and spending my free time drinking in the pub with co-workers, watching TV shows or gossiping at work.
We all work hard to earn two things: Money and free time that we can spend on leisure activities.
Right? But shitty part is that we end up wasting that time on bullshit activities.
Anyway, if you keep wasting your time for 35 years, it’s no good.
We work hard to earn free time – but we can’t do anything with it because we’re too tired.
You know that you can’t party all the time and at the same time learn new skills.
Remember how Seneca said that “Life is long if you know how to use it”? Well, when you do things that are worth it, you’re using time – not wasting it.

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Summary of “Can American capitalism survive? Steven Pearlstein on the perils of neoliberalism.”

Pearlstein’s new book, Can American Capitalism Survive?, chronicles the excesses of capitalism and shows how its ethical foundations have been shattered by a radical free market ideology – often referred to as “Neoliberalism.” Capitalism isn’t dead, Pearlstein argues, but it has to be saved from itself before it’s too late.
Steven Pearlstein The most obvious answer is that capitalism has left a lot of people behind in the last 30 years.
In the book, you imply that capitalism has gone off the rails, but I disagree.
The culture of norms and values that were supposed to check the excesses of capitalism has been eroded by capitalism itself, and now it’s propelled entirely by greed.
You seem to think that capitalism can be saved from itself.
Steven Pearlstein The question is, is all of that endemic to capitalism? I don’t think so, because we see different kinds of capitalism in countries in, say, Northern Europe and in Germany.
One of the good things about capitalism is that it has self-correcting mechanisms, just as democracy has self-correcting mechanisms.
If we lack the political will to fix the kind of capitalism we have, then there’s surely a higher political barrier to the full socialist model of national health insurance, free college for everybody, and guaranteed income for every individual, whether they work or not.

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Summary of “Declutter and Organize Your Whole House”

Dawn Nadeau is a mom who never thought she’d get her home organized – until she took a long look at not only her stuff, but also herself.
From the clothes on my body to stuff in my home, I wanted to stop perpetuating things that made me feel bad about myself.
Along the way, I learned many things from Maeve about organization – and more than a few things about myself that changed my relationship with my stuff.
To be clear, I am profoundly grateful for my home, my life, and the circumstances that have brought me to have too much stuff.
When we moved into our home eight years ago, I had two little kids and was anxious to just get stuff away.
I would purge the top layer of stuff pretty easily, and then “Rearrange the deck chairs on the Titanic,” if you will, in nearly the same way – maybe add some fancy new boxes to contain all the stuff.
Every time we cleared out a spot, we ended up changing what lived there – no longer would I let my stuff dictate my actions.
When you start to think of your things as part of an ecosystem for your life, it becomes easier to pare down to only the stuff you really love.

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