Summary of “Pamela Adlon, the TV Auteur Hiding in Plain Sight”

After decades on the fringes of Hollywood, the showrunner, writer, and actor talks about “Better Things,” sudden success, and her relationship with Louis C.K. Each day, on the set of her show “Better Things,” the director and actor Pamela Adlon retreats to a small room while the cast and crew eat lunch.
Felicia Fasano, the show’s casting director, has known Adlon for almost fourteen years, but after reading the script of the “Better Things” pilot she called Adlon to apologize: “I’m so sorry for all those times I’ve made you have dinner with me! Oh, my God, I forget how busy you are.”
She befriended Lenny Kravitz in high school; he was a guest star in the first season of “Better Things.” As a teen-ager, Adlon was friendly with Katey Sagal, who played Peggy Bundy in “Married with Children” and who starred in the FX series “Sons of Anarchy.” Through Sagal, Adlon met Allee Willis, an eccentric artist and songwriter two decades her senior-she co-wrote the “Friends” theme song, plus hits for Earth, Wind & Fire.
Adlon and two friends made one that was chosen as a finalist, an achievement that she describes as “The most exciting thing in my life.” Around the same time, she helped direct a documentary called “Street Sweep.” Adlon and her friends would head to downtown Los Angeles to befriend and film people who had become homeless as a result of President Reagan’s federal housing-budget cuts.
Adlon married the movie producer Felix Adlon, in 1997.
In one of the many phone calls between Adlon and C.K. “To process,” Adlon told him that she, too, would need to sever ties.
“She was trying to promote her movie.” Even Gideon Adlon was asked about C.K., during the run-up to her début feature film, “Blockers.” At the Emmy Awards last September, where Adlon was one of the nominees for Best Actress, she avoided red-carpet interviews in order to dodge questions about C.K. Now every time his name pops up in the news-which is increasingly often, since he has made a foray back into standup comedy-she asks the people around her to refrain from talking about him.
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Summary of “If You Can Believe It, You Can Achieve It”

I don’t believe that you can “Hope” for the best, sit back and wait until good things happen to you.
See? It’s all there because you believe those things.
You observe things, and then decide what you believe.
You can’t fly, no matter how hard you believe it.
It comes down to one thing: Do you believe that you can, or can’t live the life you want?
It’s one thing to say that you believe something.
It’s a whole different thing to actually believe.
What’s something you once believed in, but stopped believing because of fear? I think we’ve all been there.

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Summary of “This typewriter repairman was told computers were king. Twenty years later, he’s still in business”

This typewriter repairman was told computers were king.
Twenty years later, Quezada’s shop, International Office Machines in San Gabriel, is still in business.
Unlike the pager, the PDA, the floppy disk and the VCR, the typewriter has escaped the heap of gadgets defunct and disused.
The reason, according to Steve Soboroff, president of the Los Angeles Police Commission and typewriter collector: Its slow pace is meditative, not frustrating, an exercise in deliberateness closer to engraving than typing on a computer.
“In a world that’s too fast and too easy, a typewriter slows you down,” he said.
In the summer, when students were gone and the schools wanted classrooms full of typewriters repaired, the shop had so much business it had to hire temporary workers, Quezada said.
“Around 1980, every little town had a shop that repaired and sold typewriters. A typewriter was expected to be serviced and repaired, and it was expected to last 20, 30 years.”
Quezada took over the shop in the mid-’90s. It wasn’t long before computers were supplanting the typewriter.

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Summary of “Self-Reliance Is The Secret Sauce To Consistent Happiness”

Even though the purpose of life is not happiness in my opinion, being happy is still something that’s important to us.
When we become adults we should become self-reliant individuals, but funnily enough, we become even more dependent on others.
Otherwise, you become a dependent robot who can’t function by itself.
What you will find next are 6 lessons that can help you to become emotionally self-reliant.
How often do you think or feel something and you’re afraid of speaking it? We feel that we always have to agree with everything and everyone.
It’s always harder to speak your mind and to stand for something.
Once you separate yourself from everything in life, you become a passenger who tries to make the most out of every single minute.
If one thing falls through, don’t worry, do something else with your precious time.

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Summary of “Stop Trying To Do Everything”

There’s one important thing about all this working, hustling, striving, and achieving more: You can’t do everything at the same time.
So if you take on too many things, you end up spread too thin.
Success Adds Up. Real success happens when we focus on one thing at a time.
“Where I’d had huge success, I had narrowed my concentration to one thing, and where my success varied, my focus had too.”
Are you working on a lot of things? Is your attention not on one thing? There’s a big chance that you will not achieve the best possible results.
Another thing: Buffett acquired 99% of his net worth after he became 50.
You can achieve big things with small actions, that build up over time.
If you want to see the impact of compounding in your own life, it requires you to focus on one thing at a time and always look at the bigger picture.

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Summary of “Every Successful Relationship Is Successful for the Same Exact Reasons”

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“You are absolutely not going to be absolutely gaga over each other every single day for the rest of your lives, and all this ‘happily ever after’ bullshit is just setting people up for failure. They go into relationships with these unrealistic expectations. Then, the instant they realize they aren’t ‘gaga’ anymore, they think the relationship is broken and over, and they need to get out. No! There will be days, or weeks, or maybe even longer, when you aren’t all mushy-gushy in-love. You’re even going to wake up some morning and think,”Ugh, you’re still here.
A couple years ago, I discovered that I was answering the vast majority of these relationship emails with the exact same response.
Just as causing pain to your muscles allows them to grow back stronger, often introducing some pain into your relationship through vulnerability is the only way to make the relationship stronger.
Every relationship requires each person to consciously choose to give something up at times.
Generally, the more uncomfortable we are with our own worthiness in the relationship and to be loved, the more we will try to control the relationship and our partner’s behaviors.
A similar concept seems to be true in relationships: your perfect partner is not someone who creates no problems in the relationship, rather your perfect partner is someone who creates problems in the relationship that you feel good about dealing with.
Sex not only keeps the relationship healthy, many readers suggested that they use it to heal their relationships.

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Summary of “What It’s Like to Be Allergic to Corn”

Becca, who writes Corn Allergy Girl, also gets a lot of her produce from local farms.
The diet of someone with a severe corn allergy is in some ways the ideal diet for a certain type of foodie: fresh, local, free of preservatives and processed foods, the provenance of every ingredient intensely cataloged.
Knowing how to avoid foods with corn is one thing; knowing how to navigate social situations where danger lurks in every corner is another.
Cassandra Wiselka, whose 5-year-old is allergic to corn, has written about the problem of Halloween.
Virtually all mass-produced candy contains high-fructose corn syrup.
It’s hard to say exactly why, but Wiselka noticed that “In Germany, things are a lot less processed, food-wise. At least not processed as much with things like corn.”
When she dives, she has to watch out for a few specific things-that her wetsuit has not been washed with a corn-containing detergent, that her dive partners have not been eating corn chips.
Sure, scuba diving can kill you if you aren’t careful, but she can be sure there is no corn in water.

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Summary of “How to Escape the Overthinking Trap: Stop Judging Yourself”

We are the only species that can really think “Offline” – wrapped up in things that haven’t yet happened or things that are long gone but can never be changed.
Critical thinking has undoubtedly advanced our cause and become one of the essential assets of being so brilliantly human, but introspective thinking – our near constant self-evaluation, who we are, where we fit, how we compare – is becoming one of the most destructive aspects of modern life.
We are in thrall to the rigid, judgmental thoughts we think about ourselves, prisoners of the sinewy web of cogitation that tells us we are strong, clever, important, unassertive, patriotic, hopeless, old, fat, hard done by, forgotten – when actually we may be many of these things rolled into one.
Our obsessive thinking about ourselves even informs the air of political revolt that made 2016 such a big turning point.
It embeds personal misery in an era in which we are tempted, even encouraged, to compare ourselves with other people: the teenager who feels low because of what her Instagram feed makes her think; the thwarted youngster, demoralised by the success of others; the employee who feels insecure because she thinks the boss blanked her on the stairwell; the hypochondriac who thinks he is dying of everything.
Too much of our behaviour is determined not by how things are, but how we think things are.
How to cultivate that sense of detachment from a poisonous, unhelpful or just plain wrong stream of thinking? Visual clues can help: a post-it on a computer screen or a screensaver on a phone.
Instead of ruining our short time alive by setting expectations of how we think everything should be, from our jobs to our love lives, our children to our prospects, let us accept that some things will not always go as we wish.

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Summary of “Have Aliens Found Us? An Interview with the Harvard Astronomer Avi Loeb About the Mysterious Interstellar Object ‘Oumuamua”

On October 19, 2017, astronomers at the University of Hawaii spotted a strange object travelling through our solar system, which they later described as “a red and extremely elongated asteroid.” It was the first interstellar object to be detected within our solar system; the scientists named it ‘Oumuamua, the Hawaiian word for a scout or messenger.
The first one is that we didn’t expect this object to exist in the first place.
If we assume all planetary systems around other stars are doing the same thing, we can figure out what the population of interstellar objects should be.
So we checked that and found that you need the thickness of the object to be less than a millimetre in order for that to work.
The point is that this is the very first object we found from outside the solar system.
My motivation, in part, is to motivate the scientific community to collect more data on the next object rather than argue a priori that they know the answer.
We have seen an object from outside the solar system, and we are trying to figure what it is made of and where it came from.
If you put the probability at zero per cent of an object coming into the solar system, you would never find it!

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Summary of “50 Ways To Live On Your Own Terms”

Research done by economists have found - even after controlling for age, education, and other demographics - that married people make 10 to 50 percent more than single people.
Say “No” to people, obligations, requests, and opportunities you’re not interested in from now on”No more yes. It’s either HELL YEAH! or no.” - Derek Sivers.
According to neuroscience research, the more you express love, the more other people feel love for you.
Make friends with five people who inspire you”Surround yourself with people who remind you more of your future than your past.” - Dan Sullivan.
Even more fundamental is: what types of people are you comfortable around?
Unless you live in a big city, I’m baffled how many people pay outlandish amounts on rent each month.
Instead of living life on their own terms, they’d rather respond to other people’s agendas.
According to psychological research, people who make their bed in the morning are happier and more successful than those who don’t.

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