Summary of “Modern life is lonely. We all need someone to help”

What these stories illustrate is the way in which the threat of loneliness is hardwired into modern life.
Practical people doing practical things – travelling far for a job opportunity, opting for the accommodation they can afford, under unbending rules – learn the hard way that human beings can only take so much practical.
Engineering a large-scale change in people’s feelings – it’s a hard thing to do.
Most people understand that loneliness is neither necessarily felt by people who are alone, nor alien to people who are always with others.
Even a community with little in the way of material resources finds some contentment in being in a group of people who are all in it together.
The Cox report mentions social institutions that are becoming a less and less common aspect of people’s daily lives – church, local pub, workplace, social club.
Even schools feel like high-pressure environments rather than places where people are nurtured and coaxed through childhood.
How anyone at all still manages to feel secure in their own company is the real mystery of life today.

The orginal article.

Summary of “The Force Belongs To Us: THE LAST JEDI’s Beautiful Refocusing of Star Wars – FILM CRIT HULK! HULK BLOG!”

A charming way of storytelling that whispers sweet nothings in your ear and is out the window before you wake up.
In making a Episode 7, I was hoping he’d cast it aside, and in some ways he did, and in some ways doubled down on some of his worst story habits of “Momentary effect” over building to a coherent point.
Sometimes it’s done in a funny way, sometimes in an incredulous way, but it’s always in purposeful way.
So for something to be “Invisible” and for you to be “In it” is not necessarily a virtue of any filmmakers ability or the lack, but largely what we bring in our own way of seeing.
The way the film plays with audience expectations with her is never a “Ta-da! surprised you, didn’t I!?” It’s what most good turns do in that they make you slap your forehead and go “Of course!” Poe’s mutiny was always misguided, him repeating the mistakes of the past.
Because it has to earn so much of the real biggest mystery presented in the last film and that’s WHY, why would Luke ever do this and run away? The answer, and then the films answer to that answer, is one of the most brilliant last lessons that the Star Wars universe has yet to give: and that is the acceptance of / and learning from failure.
“My friend said this in a conversation a long time ago. And he didn’t mean it about the characters themselves, nor what they meant to him. He meant it in the sense of the Star Wars series’ focus on lineage and the way some all powerful family who are the most powerful force users who basically controlled the fate of galaxy was super gross. And he’s right, quite frankly. Because it’s everything I hate about the notion of ‘destiny” and “Why I’m destined to be a hero!” bullshit.
Who, within them so innately carry the understanding of the horrors of that world, and thus so tangibly know the simple, inescapable ways for it to be better.

The orginal article.

Summary of “Tony Romo on CBS NFL TV broadcast, Dallas Cowboys, more”

The first Cowboys game you called this year was obviously an emotional day given the team honored you in a pregame ceremony and your family was there.
For you, there will never be another Cowboys game like that, but as you move on in your broadcasting career and call more Dallas games, how do you anticipate your work will be on those games versus the experience this year?
The first Cowboys game for me was difficult for many reasons.
If you listened to the second game, I let it go a little more, and in the future I am pretty sure I will treat it like every other game.
If you love the game, hopefully you will enjoy learning it.
The way I think about the game, I wanted to show viewers that there is a whole bunch of things that they don’t know.
So I want to start something early in a game and it unfolds before your eyes as you are watching it.
Then it is like, Are you still going to stick with this after you have rushed for 1.0 yard per carry over nine carries? Are you going to keep going with three tight ends and running the football because that was your game plan coming in? Will people change their mindset or stick with their guns? A lot of that is really fun to see how that unfolds.

The orginal article.

Summary of “The Myth of the ‘Terrible Twos'”

Isabel Fattal: In the years since you last published this book, technology became a dominant part of parents’ and toddlers’ lives.
Thirty years later, she realized that it depends on: What are the mediating factors, moderating factors, social circumstances? How do the parents get along after divorce, how do they talk about each other to the child? All kinds of emotionally charged conditions that are much more predictive than the single factor of divorce.
Parents [can also] use screen time as an aid, not as a persistent substitute.
Fattal: What impact has the growing normalization of same-sex parenting had on children?
Not even giving gay people permission to be parents.
People would say, “Other children are going to tease them and bully them,” “Other parents are not going to want their children to play with them,” “They won’t have a community that they can belong to,” and the point that me and others were making is that that is not inherent to the condition of being gay.
The child tries and tries and makes it happen, and Sam starts clapping with great joy and turns to the parents.
Two toddlers identifying a goal, and the older toddler turning over a cherished object to a little boy that he loves, and the little boy allowing himself to be taught by the toddler in a way that his own daddy could not quite do, and then the older toddler celebrating him and turning to the adults, as if he were saying, “Look at what he did!”.

The orginal article.

Summary of “Processing My Struggle With Depression And Imposter Syndrome in Silicon Valley”

I didn’t have that skill in 2011; I wasn’t processing my emotions, how I was feeling and even worse, how I was making others feel around me.
While working to overcome my depression, I was still in San Francisco, going through the life cycles of entrepreneurship, working for a startup, launching a startup,, meeting with investors, raising money, looking at job opportunities, launching hackathons and winning hackathons.
Thinking about each of those meetings, I know how the Silicon Valley network effects and culture works.
Some Lessons learned from depression: 1) Be honest with yourself 2) Once you start feeling depressed, acknowledge it and seek help 3) Find out what makes you happy and repeat it 4) Get out of your comfort zone and do something fun 5) Talk to and trust real friends 6) Work towards security 7) See professional help, therapist.
Slowly I started feeling better emotionally over the last three to four years, but I noticed another emotional roadblock, impostor syndrome.
Impostor syndrome is a feeling that you’re a fraud.
Feelings of failure, a sense of not being satisfied, feelings of not knowing your strengths.
Once you combine depression, imposter syndrome and introversion, it’s like creating a mind poison.

The orginal article.

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If you’re a creative person, I’d recommend giving yourself time to work on a project is a great “Treat.”
Setting aside real time to just READ. An investment of time, rather than money.
As long as it doesn’t feel like a chore, making the time to exercise can be a way to reconnect with your body and set aside time for yourself.
Time is my best “Free” treat, specifically time away from something.
Spending time outside has the double benefit of getting you out of your stresshole and into nature.
Nov15-22 suggests “Carving out time for yourself. There is always going to be something that needs to be done. But it doesn’t mean it has to always be done NOW.”.
IMO, the times I feel happiest are having social situations that don’t require any work of me.
Yes, it’s food, but it’s a meal I’d already be making and eating, so instead of trying to get work done or truly multitask during it, I make the cooking time time for myself.

The orginal article.

Summary of “Stoicism Reveals 4 Rituals That Will Make You Confident”

Your thoughts, judgments and beliefs about what happened are what creates your emotional reactions.
CBT is based on the principle that thoughts influence feelings, feelings influence actions, and actions influence our results, or life circumstances.
Getting rid of the irrational, negative thoughts doesn’t mean you should just try to fill your head with positive affirmations.
Okay, out with the unhelpful, irrational thoughts and in with the useful, rational thoughts but how do we do that?
You probably have a few “Go to” thoughts like, “I’m an idiot” or “I’m a complete failure.” Once you’ve identified them we go to part 2: challenging the thoughts.
That’s fine for the occasional negative thought but what if you’re someone who is always.
If you chronically feel down about yourself it may not be an issue of a negative thought here or there; it may be that your “Core beliefs” about yourself are negative.
Have a set response to challenge the negative thoughts you’re accustomed to hearing.

The orginal article.

Summary of “How I Stopped Chasing Happiness and Started Enjoying My Imperfect Life”

Have you ever set a goal and then become obsessed with it, making it the center of your life and arranging everything else around it? Did you think that only after you achieved your goal would you be totally relaxed and happy?
Throughout my life, I’ve measured my happiness by my achievements.
In my vision of a happy life, I was always there with my family and for my family.
It’s realizing how beautiful your life actually is.
I now recognize how beautiful and colorful my life is.
Writing down all the beautiful things brightens my life and makes me appreciate them even more.
I start my day by telling myself how beautiful life is, and how much I love myself.
It is eye-opening and life-changing to see how wonderful it is to have another day to live, to feel love and to enjoy life to the fullest.

The orginal article.

Summary of “To Recover from Burnout, Regain Your Sense of Control”

Maybe you feel like no matter how hard you work, you can never keep up.
You’re beginning to question your professional situation: Am I in the right job? The right company? The right career? I used to feel passionate about going into work but now I dread Monday and can’t wait until Friday.
In that state, you often feel like your circumstances are out of your control – as if everything around you is working against you.
To fight against this negativity, remind yourself you don’t need to feel like taking action in order to do so.
Breaks are beneficial for anyone – they help restore your energy – but they’re especially important if you’re burned out, in part because making the choice to take them demonstrates to yourself that you have some level of control, even on a micro level.
Finally, question your assumptions about the way that your work life has to be and what you have to do.
You could decide that at least one weeknight, you won’t take any work home.
Changing your mindset and taking small actions will help you begin the process of feeling less burned out and more hopeful about the future.

The orginal article.

Summary of “Christmas blues: 4 ways we mess up comforting friends: Sheryl Sandberg”

Hilary went to a toy store, bought a stuffed animal, and sent an email: “I’m coming to the hospital with a package for your daughter. I don’t want to invade your privacy or hers. If you don’t feel like coming down I’ll leave it at the front desk. No pressure.” The teacher replied immediately, inviting her up.
The holidays are supposed to be a time of celebration – but if you’re dealing with illness, divorce, incarceration or grief, that festive spirit can feel like salt being poured on a wound.
If you have a loved one who’s suffering, phrases you’ve used a thousand times without a second thought -“Happy holidays! Season’s greetings!” – can feel like a cruel joke.
Pressuring people to be happy is a surefire way to make them sad; feeling bad about feeling bad just makes us feel worse.
For bereaved parents and spouses, the most helpful help came from people who invited them to express their feelings.
Your brother is sick from chemo? I totally know how you feel – my cat was throwing up recently.
Odds are you don’t actually know how they feel.
Fourth: We’ve tried to show support by saying, “Let me know if there’s anything I can do.” We meant it, but it put the burden on others to know what they needed and feel comfortable asking.

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