Summary of “The Four Desires Driving All Human Behavior”

Anyone who has much to do with children knows how they are constantly performing some antic, and saying “Look at me.” “Look at me” is one of the most fundamental desires of the human heart.
Love of power is closely akin to vanity, but it is not by any means the same thing.
What vanity needs for its satisfaction is glory, and it is easy to have glory without power Many people prefer glory to power, but on the whole these people have less effect upon the course of events than those who prefer power to glory Power, like vanity, is insatiable.
Love of power is greatly increased by the experience of power, and this applies to petty power as well as to that of potentates.
In any autocratic regime, the holders of power become increasingly tyrannical with experience of the delights that power can afford.
Since power over human beings is shown in making them do what they would rather not do, the man who is actuated by love of power is more apt to inflict pain than to permit pleasure.
A thinker of exceptional sensitivity to nuance and to the dualities of which life is woven, cautions against dismissing the love of power as a wholesale negative driver – from the impulse to dominate the unknown, he points out, spring such desirables as the pursuit of knowledge and all scientific progress.
Complement Nobel Writers on Writing with more excellent Nobel Prize acceptance speeches – William Faulkner on the artist as a booster of the human heart, Ernest Hemingway on writing and solitude, Alice Munro on the secret to telling a great story, and Saul Bellow on how literature ennobles the human spirit – then revisit Russell on immortality and why science is the key to democracy.

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Summary of “If Social Media Makes You Feel Bad, Quit Using It”

Of course, I’m exaggerating, and social media is not the source of all our problems.
Don’t expect to that your life will be awesome when you get rid of social media.
It’s the opposite of the scientific approach to quitting social media that Cal Newport took.
He makes some good points about why social media is bad for you.
What’s it going to be? Do you use social media or not? Does it make you happy? Does it improve your life or business?
People who have stakes in social media will never tell you to stop using it.
Many successful entrepreneurs I know have never used social media.
One thing is sure: You can do well in life with and without social media.

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Summary of “Your Goals Are Overrated”

So why am I going over all of this? Because it applies to creating habits and achieving goals in life as well.
Goals vs Habits Let’s take the most cliche and universal New Year’s Resolution of the bunch: “I want to lose 20 lbs and look sexy for summer.”
That’s because it’s better to invest your limited focus and energy on building habits rather than specific goals.
People usually don’t focus on habits because goals sound much sexier in our minds.
Habits require one to invest one’s efforts for a little while and then take the rewards of that effort and re-invest them in a greater effort to form even better habits.
Some habits are better than other habits because some habits, once acquired, make other positive habits much easier to acquire as well.
These are sometimes referred to as “Keystone habits.”3 They are habits that, once adopted, will reverberate into other areas of your life, which makes acquiring other desirable habits more natural and require less effort.
Once you do it, it should begin to feel automatic and you can then start adding more depth or knowledge to work into the habit, or you can move on to another habit.

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Summary of “What the Aztecs Can Teach Us About Happiness and the Good Life”

My students reveal something that the pre-Columbian Aztecs knew well.
Before the arrival of the Spanish conquistadors, the Aztecs had a philosophically rich culture, with people they called ‘philosophers’, and their specious counterparts the ‘sophists’.
Like the Greeks, the Aztecs were interested in how to lead a good life.
The Aztecs had a saying: ‘The earth is slippery, slick,’ which was as common to them as a contemporary aphorism such as ‘Don’t put all your eggs in one basket’ is to us.
First, the Aztecs held that this sort of life would not lead to ‘happiness’, except by luck.
The Aztecs grounded themselves in the body with a regimen of daily exercises, somewhat like yoga.
The Aztecs believed that ‘god’ was simply nature, an entity of both genders whose presence was manifest in different forms.
Aztec philosophy encourages us to question this received ‘Western’ wisdom about the good life – and to seriously consider the sobering notion that doing something worthwhile is more important than enjoying it.

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Summary of “Why I Don’t Believe In Work-Life Balance”

Do you get drained trying to find a balance between activities in your life and career?
When we talk about work-life balance, we talk about the prioritizing between work related things and lifestyle related things.
Research even shows that people who believe they don’t have time for their personal life, feel drained and distracted at work.
Ninety percent of his time goes to family, work, and himself.
You want to leave early and you finish up work at 5.30pm. It’s 6.30pm before you get home.
Plus, we spend most of our free time thinking, worrying, and talking about work.
If work is holding back your personal or spiritual growth, find different work.
If work is fucking up your relationships, again, find different work.

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Summary of “How To Focus Better: Manage Your Attention”

How many minutes of undisturbed work do you get done on an average day?
We’re all so connected that it becomes impossible to find time to focus on yourself and your work.
So no wonder that many of us ask: “How do I focus better?” When new subscribers join my newsletter, I always ask them about their challenges.
The majority who answers, mentions something that’s related to focus.
When I did a survey on my newsletter last year, 28% said that their biggest challenge is related to focus and time management.
“My biggest challenge is: how can we define what to really focus on?”.
It has nothing to do with your smartphone or YouTube, online shopping, Instagram, or any other thing you want to blame for your lack of focus.
Remember: Focus determines the quality of your life.

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Summary of “Shut Up and Be Patient”

People who were bullied growing up and go on to become the smartest, nicest, and most interesting dude at the company Christmas party, yet they still harbor this overwhelming sense that nobody really likes them, that it’s all fake and unreal and unearned and undeserved, and that in the end, everybody’s going to wind up hurting them.
People who grew up thinking they were dumb but then go on to get a PhD in molecular astro-chemo-bio-physics yet still feel like they have to prove themselves over and over, that they can’t be wrong about anything, ever, that any sign of doubt in others is a secret sign of inner laughter, that the simplest of mistakes or a poor decision will bring down their whole life like a house of cards.
Maybe your neurotic mother conditioned you to feel guilty about every fucking thing that ever goes wrong in her or anybody’s life, so you’ve learned over the years to always believe you’re not good enough.
These habits – a.k.a. your identity – have been built up over the course of decades of living and breathing, laughing and loving, succeeding and failing, and through the years, they have built up a cruising speed of 40 knots or so in the freezing Atlantic.
Life’s not like a Smart Car where you can just jack the thing into reverse and veer onto a pedestrian-strewn sidewalk whenever you please.
Life moves at the pace it wants, not the pace you want, bucko.
Maybe that is why we are so afraid, because we know that once we chart that course and fire up those furnaces, it’s so fucking hard to turn things around, it’s so hard to move and change and we’re afraid we may end up like the spoiled rich girl, stranded in the icy Atlantic, screaming, “Jack! Jack!” even though there was totally room for Jack on that piece of plyboard, the dude clearly had some martyr complex and wanted to feel like he was dying for her, dying for something beyond his own selfish desires, which ironically, is still dying for your own selfish desires, asshole.
It would be easy for me to say, “I want the answer NOW! I want to know what my life will be like NOW! I want to know what I should do, how I should feel NOW!” But I’ve lived long enough and fucked up enough to know that that doesn’t help things.

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Summary of “How To Go From Procrastinate Hero To Procrastinate Zero”

In this guide, I will give you an example of how you can improve every single step of the Procrastinate Zero framework.
How do you keep an activity log? Watch this video to learn how I do it.
Track your movements and diet Do you know how many calories you eat during your work-week? How many calories do you burn? How many calories does your body need? Use apps like Myfitnesspal or step counters to measure yourself.
Once you start using these apps, you will get a clear picture of how much you walk and how much you eat on an average day.4.
If we want to get anywhere in life, we have to understand the basics of how to communicate with people.
One of the best books about this subject is How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
No matter how many times you read Influence by Robert Cialdini, if you’re an idiot, you will remain an idiot.
At the same time understand how you should get your product, yourself, or services out there.

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Summary of “How To Figure Out The Next Big Move In Your Life Journey”

One day you’re happy, working on your daily tasks, and the next day you wake up, thinking: “What should I do with my life?”.
She said: “Am doing well. Been interesting times figuring out which direction to go to next in my life journey.”
I want to share 2 strategies with you that I’ve personally used in the past to figure out my next big move.1.
You can’t expect good things to happen when you’re living a cushy life.
Life is dynamic and requires you to adapt all the time.
So I did my job, spent time with my friends and family, worked out a lot, and just enjoyed my life.
I can tell you how I did it, but that’s not going to help you because you have to figure out how YOU are going to do it.
That’s the most important thing about figuring out your next move.

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Summary of “This veteran found healing through driving a Porsche”

Sean Clifton gripped the wheel as his Porsche 911 barreled into a turn.
We were going fast enough that my life was in that hand, so I studied The Hoof as we zipped along at Mid-Ohio Sports Car Course near Lexington, Ohio, during an open track day, one of more than a dozen such excursions at which Clifton has honed his high-performance driving skills.
The cars ranged from Clifton’s used Porsche to mid-six-figure supercars to beaters that made me wonder why their drivers had bothered.
PTSD is a common diagnosis for soldiers who have been through what Clifton has been through.
No doubt, one reason Clifton loves driving his Porsche is that he gets an adrenaline jolt like he used to get in the Army.
Perhaps the best explanation for the healing Clifton feels while driving the Porsche is also the simplest: Doing so brings him joy.
In August, Clifton conducted a “Mission” he called “Five tracks in five weeks,” in which he drove his Porsche at two tracks in Ohio and one each in West Virginia, Indiana, and Pennsylvania to raise awareness and money for VET Motorsports.
One day during a driving session, his instructor, Collazo, asked him, “What color shirt was the flag man wearing?” Clifton had seen the flagman, one of a handful stationed around the track, but had no idea what he was wearing.

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