Summary of “What Mentors Wish Their Mentees Knew”

These latter situations require distinct types of mentors, ones we classify in an upcoming JAMA Internal Medicine paper as coaches, sponsors, and connectors.
Finally, some mentees need a connector, a seasoned guide who can help the mentor and mentee unite, or build a mentorship team.
We tell mentees to find mentors they can see themselves becoming – and make sure they are up to the challenge.
Good mentors are successful for a reason: They manage their time wisely, often doing multiple things at any given time in order to ensure success.
Just as in the world of management, mentees must learn to manage up – that is, to help their mentor guide them.
Mentors are more likely to respond positively to a mentee who presents the upside to their efforts rather than the downside.
We know of mentors who have exited relationships with overly defensive mentees because giving constructive feedback to these individuals became quite time-consuming and emotionally fraught for both parties.
In addition to producing high-quality results with integrity, excellent mentees know what type of help they need, select the right people to help them, finish tasks ahead of schedule, are mindful of their mentor’s time, are energized and engaging, and credit others liberally.

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Summary of “It’s Your Fault People Always Misunderstand You”

If you’re not getting the results you want or if you’re having meeting after meeting and you’re not getting the response you want from your team, it’s time to look at how and what you’re communicating, says Matt Eventoff, owner of Princeton Public Speaking, an executive communication training firm, and the founder of The Oratory Project, which teaches executive communication skills to at-risk young adults.
Avoidance: People only approach you with questions or feedback when they absolutely need to do so, Eventoff says.
First, you need to take an honest look at how you communicate, Grenny says.
Are you thorough, clear, and factual in how you convey yourself? How consistent are you in how you communicate? And, do you involve all of the stakeholders so you can get different perspectives?
Look at how clear you make your expectations-and how open you are to understanding what others expect of you.
Asking curious, open-ended questions encourages dialogue instead of dictating what other people should do or think, Magosky says.
People need to know the outcome that you’re seeking or the result you want, Eventoff says.
Magosky says it’s important to remember that all people have good days and bad days.

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Summary of “A beginner’s guide to Getting Things Done”

Getting Things Done is a time management technique that took the world by storm when it was first published in 2001.
What is GTD?Getting Things Done is much more than just a way to get things done.
It is a framework for organizing and tracking tasks, such that you can 100% trust that the things on your to do list truly are the things you need to do.
Open loops are the things that are niggling at the back of your mind, things you remember when you can’t sleep at four in the morning, things that bug you when you run across them again.
Things you can add to your waiting for list include things that are blocked for any reason - you need a reply to an email you sent before you can continue, or you’re waiting on a delivery.
Don’t include anything that you want to get done on a certain day, only things that must be done.
If you can view your next actions list sorted by context, then you can easily just check your list of things to do ‘at work’ or ‘out shopping’ while you’re in those locations.
You’ll forget to add something to the next actions list, or you’ll forget to remove the things that should no longer be on the list.

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Summary of “America’s Best University President”

“Concerns about civility and mutual respect,” the committee wrote, “Can never be used as a justification for closing off discussion of ideas, however offensive or disagreeable those ideas may be to some members of our community.”
Those are fighting words at a time when professors live in fear of accidentally offending their own students and a governor needs to declare a countywide state of emergency so that white supremacist Richard Spencer can speak at the University of Florida.
Instead, it’s because free speech is what makes educational excellence possible.
“It is the function of speech to free men from the bondage of irrational fears,” Louis Brandeis wrote 90 years ago in his famous concurrence in Whitney v. California.
It is also the function of free speech to allow people to say foolish things so that, through a process of questioning, challenge and revision, they may in time come to say smarter things.
In a speech in July, he addressed the notion that unfettered free speech could set back the cause of “Inclusion” because it risked upsetting members of a community.
Instead, the prevailing conceit is that nothing is really amiss, that censorship concerns are overblown, that there are always creative ways to respect free speech while remaining sensitive to all sensitivities – a balancing act so exquisite that no student need ever be insulted, and no administrator need ever take a stand.
Zimmer knows what bunk this is; that if free speech – never a popular idea to start with – isn’t actively defended, it will rapidly be eroded.

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Summary of “These 13 Exercises Will Prepare You for Work’s Toughest Situations”

What would your boss ideally want from you? How will you build trust and confidence? How will he/she stayed informed about what’s relevant and important?
How will he/she avoid being surprised by what you do, how you do it, etc.
How will he/she know that you’re running into problems or anticipate them? How will he/she know how to help you?
Do you know why they’re interested in your company or why they joined? How much visibility do you have on your ability to meet those needs? Do you know how their roles might evolve?
How will you develop them? How much are you willing to invest in them? If you aren’t willing to do that, are you prepared to deal with attrition?
How clear is the pain point you’re trying to address? How clear is your value proposition? What differentiates your product from competitors’? What are you basing your answers on? Are those signals clearly coming from users? How can you separate out the noise?
How will your potential users hear about your product? What are you willing to invest to make that happen? How will you measure success?
“If you say, ‘Hey, are you stressed?’ that attempts to force a confession in an awkward way. Instead, you could say, for example: ‘I know that you’re juggling a lot of work right now. I know you’re doing X and Y. If I were in your position, I might be a little stressed.’ Or, ‘Your team is under a lot of pressure right now, how is everyone dealing with it? Everyone responds to stress differently.’ Or ‘I’m not sure how you’re feeling about this, but if I had to guess, I’d say. ‘ It’s OK to be wrong or off, as long as you give the person a chance to set you straight, to be direct with you.”

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Summary of “Starting things is scary.”

There is one thing that is even more important than finishing, and that’s starting.
“The secret of getting ahead is getting started.” ~Mark TwainThis seems obvious.
If you think about it, we don’t just start once; we have to start many times over the course of a project.
Finishing is essentially the same as starting anyway.
“Thinking ‘here goes nothing’ could be the start to everything” ~Drew WagnerI allow myself to create complete trash the first time around.
A struggling start is often the symptom of an environment that needs changing.
The motion of walking and the stimulus of the environment starts to stir me up.
At this point, I am so stuffed full of good ideas I have to half-run home to get started.

The orginal article.

Summary of “Everyone Talks About Living Their Best Life. How Do You Actually Do It?”

You don’t need to come from the right pedigree.
What is it that you actually want? You don’t need to construct a vision board, just be honest with yourself.
How much money will it take until you feel accomplished? What experiences do you want to have? Write it down if it helps you put it into focus.
Most successful people spend countless hours working and training to reach their goals.
In order to create the lifestyle that you dream of, you need to surround yourself with positive people that push and encourage you.
If you’re an entrepreneur, you need to meet investors, potential clients and press years before you need their help.
If your dream is to be a digital nomad and travel blogger, you need to develop connections with those in the industry to find out what separates the successful people from the wannabes.
You don’t need to fulfill your goals as quickly as possible.

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Summary of “Disaster Prep: 10 Things You Should Absolutely Have In A Go Bag”

This piece will focus on what to have in a go bag – a pack prepped for when you need to get out of the house within seconds.
You don’t need to do it perfectly; you just need to do it.
Depending on the kind of emergency, you’ll need your ID to access bank accounts and claim other assets you hold.
Cash After a disaster, no one will be able to take your credit card, but you’ll need money for food, fuel, transport, and more.
Then you’ll need a smart, portable way of purifying water.
If trapped, you’ll need to signal rescue workers without losing your voice or expending precious energy.
Don’t skimp on this part of your prep; if you need it, you’ll really need it.
Food You’ll likely work hard during an evacuation-you may need to walk for miles and overcome obstacles.

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Summary of “If A Customer Says Your Product Or Service Is Too Expensive, This Is What You Should Say”

Now, in all honesty, there are a dozen other competitors in our space that offer the same thing.
I’ll tell you where we do win, though: Customer service.
Which means, when a customer is comparing your own company to one of your competitors, you need to be aware that there are only four reasons people truly buy a product or service.
“There are only a few ways you can really differentiate yourself from your competitors,” said Fogel.
“First, you want to start by not sounding like your competitors. Using the exact same terminology and examples makes you sound like everyone else. Second, you need to be inquisitive. You have to ask better questions, and make them feel like you are more knowledgeable than the rest. And third, you have to listen close and understand what it is they’re truly asking for, instead of just responding with blanket statements.”
Fogel went on to explain what to do when a potential client or customer asks the hardest question of all: “I can get your product or service from somewhere else. Why should I work with you?”.
Say something along the lines of, “That’s a great question. But depending on what you’re looking for from a new provider, and depending on your relationship with competitor X, maybe it makes sense that you do nothing and stay with that competitor. Can I make a suggestion? Let me ask you a few very straight forward tough questions about what you are looking for in a supplier, what challenges you’ve had over the years, and then we can figure out together whether I truly add value. And if we decide together there’s a good fit, then you and I could spend the last five minutes figuring out where we might get started on a business relationship. Does that sound okay?”.
Finally, if you notice your competitors are slashing prices, you need to know when to say “No” just as often as you say “Yes.”

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Summary of “Writing In A Journal Has Helped Me Create My Future And Achieve My Goals.”

Writing in my journal every single day is the glue that holds everything else together.
During these disconnected days, you could spend a good amount of time thinking, relaxing, learning, and then writing in your journal.
It’s good to have your phone with you, but only to act upon insights you get while writing in your journal, while listening/reading a book, or while pondering/reflecting.
Recently while writing in my journal, I got the insight to send flowers to some people who have recently helped me.
There is one thing I believe to be the most essential in the morning: writing in your journal.
Writing in your journal is more powerful than simple meditation for the same reason that writing your goals down is more powerful than leaving them in your head. Meditation and prayer are powerful ways to make your journaling session more effective.
Writing in your journal first thing in the morning is essential for training your subconscious mind to achieve your goals.
As it relates to my own writing, I can spend a few minutes sketching articles ideas in my journal, which then makes writing an actual article 100X faster and easier.

The orginal article.