Summary of “Retire In Sync With Your Spouse”

In his first year of retirement, Hagedorn is struggling to reconcile the goals of his wife, Caranell, who has her sights set on travel-encouraged by HGTV and the Travel Channel-with his desire for “a little breathing room” to get their finances settled.
Spending more time with a spouse or partner can be one of the high points of retirement.
Sometimes the source of friction is simply spending more time together-especially if one spouse, often the wife, has already established a busy at-home routine.
“My wife told me, ‘I married you for better or worse, but not from 9 to 5,'” writes reader Paul Wallick, who joined a gym, volunteers at church and is a part-time consultant, among other activities.
“Spouses don’t have to do everything together, and my wife and I take separate trips,” writes Thomas King.
It’s critical to talk with your spouse before you retire to pinpoint and address any conflicts.
Reader Bill Smith’s wife kept working after he retired, so he made her breakfast, packed her lunch, cleaned the house and made dinner.
Another reader writes: “My wife became bored and went back to work at REI. As an avid hiker, I enjoy the spousal discount.”

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Summary of “After 45 Birthdays, Here Are ’12 Rules for Life'”

Looking back on my birthday seems to be a good opportunity to do two things.
Politics is not the most important thing in the world.
You will notice, as you go about your day, that many, many important things are riding on your spouse, things that will have immediate costs and benefits to you.
Very few of the things that irritate you or bring you joy have anything to do with the government.
Give yourself permission to be bad. You know what you’re really good at? Things you’ve done many times before.
No, don’t tell me how expensive your city is; I have spent basically my whole life in New York and Washington, DC. You can save if you want to; what you really mean is “There are all these things I want more than financial security.” And you’re right: You do want them more than financial security right now.
So cut out the things in your life that matter less than the financial freedom that will let you take important risks while sleeping easy at night and save more money.
Here’s a funny thing I have learned by being just a little bit internet famous: it doesn’t matter how many times you hear them, the words “You are amazing, and here’s why” never get old.

The orginal article.

Summary of “Retire In Sync With Your Spouse”

In his first year of retirement, Hagedorn is struggling to reconcile the goals of his wife, Caranell, who has her sights set on travel-encouraged by HGTV and the Travel Channel-with his desire for “a little breathing room” to get their finances settled.
Spending more time with a spouse or partner can be one of the high points of retirement.
Sometimes the source of friction is simply spending more time together-especially if one spouse, often the wife, has already established a busy at-home routine.
“My wife told me, ‘I married you for better or worse, but not from 9 to 5,'” writes reader Paul Wallick, who joined a gym, volunteers at church and is a part-time consultant, among other activities.
“Spouses don’t have to do everything together, and my wife and I take separate trips,” writes Thomas King.
It’s critical to talk with your spouse before you retire to pinpoint and address any conflicts.
Reader Bill Smith’s wife kept working after he retired, so he made her breakfast, packed her lunch, cleaned the house and made dinner.
Another reader writes: “My wife became bored and went back to work at REI. As an avid hiker, I enjoy the spousal discount.”

The orginal article.

Summary of “Megan McArdle’s ’12 Rules for Life'”

Politics is not the most important thing in the world.
You will notice, as you go about your day, that many, many important things are riding on your spouse, things that will have immediate costs and benefits to you.
Very few of the things that irritate you or bring you joy have anything to do with the government.
Give yourself permission to be bad. You know what you’re really good at? Things you’ve done many times before.
No, don’t tell me how expensive your city is; I have spent basically my whole life in New York and Washington, DC. You can save if you want to; what you really mean is “There are all these things I want more than financial security.” And you’re right: You do want them more than financial security right now.
So cut out the things in your life that matter less than the financial freedom that will let you take important risks while sleeping easy at night and save more money.
Tell them exactly how great they are, in how many ways.
Here’s a funny thing I have learned by being just a little bit internet famous: it doesn’t matter how many times you hear them, the words “You are amazing, and here’s why” never get old.

The orginal article.

Summary of “Should Your Spouse Be Your Best Friend?”

An entirely separate part of the study asked people to name their best friend.
“The benefits of marriage are strong even for those who are littered with outside friends. It’s just bigger for those who consider their spouse their closest friend. It’s a bonus.”
There’s yet another problem with calling your husband or wife your best friend.
Dr. Pearson said there’s a critical difference between a best friend and a spouse.
“One of the criteria for a best friend is you feel unconditionally accepted,” he said.
“He’s lots of things that my best friend isn’t, but my best friend is lots of things he’s not.”
That may be the point: Calling the person you’re married to your best friend may be shorthand for saying that you actually like your spouse and that you have shared history, shared lives and shared dreams.
If your spouse is your best friend, then whom do you complain to your spouse about?

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