Summary of “What not to say in a salary negotiation”

To coach us along in the salary negotiation process, we turned to Josh Doody, author of Fearless Salary Negotiation.
“A salary negotiation is a collaboration, and a key ingredient of a successful collaboration is good communication,” says Doody.
Instead of Doody simply sharing the things you should say, he’s here to warn you about the potential negotiation land mines to avoid when angling for the salary you deserve.
“I call this The Dreaded Salary Question and it’s tricky because it usually comes up early in the interview process, and most candidates don’t think of it as part of a salary negotiation even though it is,” says Doody.
“Desired,” as in “My desired salary is …”.
“If the health insurance offering, paid vacation, target bonus, or other aspects of the benefits package are underwhelming, the candidate can use those as reasons to ask for a higher salary to compensate.”
Start with printing out the results of your personal salary estimator, Know Your Worth.
See what your base salary should be and see what the industry norms are.

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Summary of “What not to say in a salary negotiation”

To coach us along in the salary negotiation process, we turned to Josh Doody, author of Fearless Salary Negotiation.
“A salary negotiation is a collaboration, and a key ingredient of a successful collaboration is good communication,” says Doody.
Instead of Doody simply sharing the things you should say, he’s here to warn you about the potential negotiation land mines to avoid when angling for the salary you deserve.
“I call this The Dreaded Salary Question and it’s tricky because it usually comes up early in the interview process, and most candidates don’t think of it as part of a salary negotiation even though it is,” says Doody.
“Desired,” as in “My desired salary is …”.
“If the health insurance offering, paid vacation, target bonus, or other aspects of the benefits package are underwhelming, the candidate can use those as reasons to ask for a higher salary to compensate.”
Start with printing out the results of your personal salary estimator, Know Your Worth.
See what your base salary should be and see what the industry norms are.

The orginal article.

Summary of “How I Get It Done: New York Times’s Taffy Brodesser-Akner”

Now, she’s a features writer for the New York Times and the Times Magazine, where she has written about Ethan Hawke, Jimmy Buffett, Tonya Harding, and of course, Gwyneth Paltrow, who professed to not know what the Cut is.
He has the whole routine set with taking care of our children, getting them out the door, and every day I have to make a crucial decision: Do I get ready while they’re getting ready, do I sit with them and hover over them and then get ready after they leave? And every day it’s a new adventure.
I have dry skin; my skin should have oil on it, my hair should have oil in it, and everything should just be coated in oil, like an Exxon Valdez duck.
We are not oiled enough – and I do understand this through Gwyneth.
For three hours a day, three days a week, I just wrote.
My husband’s like, “You’re going to D.C. for one day and checking luggage?” But I think that’s more associated with my sense that nothing will ever fit or look good.
I feel like if I can start the day with TV and end the day with TV then I have an excellent life.
Then I watch TV. I feel like if I can start the day with TV and end the day with TV then I have an excellent life.

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Summary of “Everything You Fight Has Power Over you. Everything You Accept Doesn’t.”

Everything you accept loses its problem it never gets solved? But when you finally let it go, somehow it gets sorted out.
When we surrender to the circumstances we’ve been fighting, they lose all of their power over us.
When we honor the past and take the most valuable lessons from it, and the power it has over us dissolves.
When you let go of the resentment you feel towards a person who hurt you and forgive them or make peace with a difficult experience from your past, it loses its power over your and more importantly over your future.
While you don’t have to burn everything from your past in a blazing inferno, you want the environment to be representative of who you’re becoming, your next chapter, not your previous one.
For the first time in my life, I’m being forced to accept that kids might not be in my future.
We are effectively trying to turn the past into the present.
Every failure, every heartbreak, everything that I went after so, you know, vigorously that didn’t turn out, thank God.

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Summary of “How To Fully Commit To Goals That Terrify You”

What is working in this new sphere and what is not working?
Why not fast-track your process by holding your own to the same standards as those in the top of the industry? Actually, study the best so much and understand why it works so you can quickly innovate and evolve beyond it.
In the book, The Lessons of History, Will and Ariel Durant explain that throughout history, most people lack the creativity and courage to innovate.
They prefer to imitate what has worked, and thus never create anything original.
Innovation requires a deep learning and sense of context - and a willingness to pursue ideas beyond that context which might not work.
Dan Sullivan explains that certain people are “Game Changers.” These people are industry transformers who don’t just work in a certain industry, they continually disrupt it.
If you’re not changing the game, then you’re playing someone else’s game.
To repeat Buckminster Fuller: “You never change things by fighting against the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the old model obsolete.”

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Summary of “Ten Tweaks To Your Morning Routine That Will Transform Your Entire Day”

“For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: ‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?'” And whenever the answer has been ‘No’ for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
The Nottingham research has led me to uncover ways we can break bad habits in the morning and maximize our energy and self-control throughout the day.
Whether you naturally wake up feeling alert and productive or rise with the brainpower of a zombie, these tips will help you transform your morning routine and set a positive tone that lasts the entire day.
Exercising first thing in the morning ensures that you’ll have the time for it, and it improves your self-control and energy levels all day long.
It’s much healthier to take those precious first moments of the day to do something relaxing that sets a calm, positive tone for your day.
Keep your morning meetings on time, and your entire day will stay on track.
The right morning routine can make your day, every day.
What do you do in the morning to start your day off right? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below, as I learn just as much from you as you do from me.

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Summary of “Mental Models and Making Decisions You Don’t Regret”

If preventing mistakes is that easy, why are we still make decisions that we regret?
It’s easy to look at success and attribute it to good decision making.
Failure is not always explained by bad decision making.
The people who were responsible for the Titanic probably thought they were making the right decisions at the time.
I don’t think good or bad decisions have anything to do with the outcome.
“Good decisions can lead to bad outcomes and vice versa.”
Sometimes even bad decisions can lead to good outcomes.
So that’s why I think it’s pointless when people pretend they can teach you how to make “Good” decisions.

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Summary of “Emma Thompson, In Conversation”

“The way in which I frame my past,” says Emma Thompson, sitting in her cool Manhattan hotel room on a sweltering late-summer day, “Is always changing.” And yet some things stay the same.
You think a “Crumbling” happens in every long-term relationship?Not necessarily crumbling, but if the relationship hasn’t changed for long periods of time then the people in it are probably serving a facsimile of what the relationship used to be.
You think about what might happen here with Roe versus Wade, and then also think about what happened in Ireland where abortion and gay marriage were made possible – extraordinary.
The thing is, you were asking how my thinking has changed: I was reading The Madwoman in the Attic.
If you think about – okay, another story: I was doing a thing with trafficking.
The thing is, I don’t think of my career in phases.
For a while that belief persisted, but I think everyone’s beginning to realize that good acting can be all sorts of things.
You clean out the cupboard and you find something in it that leads you to another task, which you get terribly involved in, and you think, Great, that’ll take me another day.

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Summary of “How to Get Lucky: The Secrets to Creating Your Own Good Luck”

Their luck seems random-and these days, thanks to social media, it seems like everybody’s getting lucky but you.
Make a few tweaks to the way you approach opportunities that arise in your daily life and you too can become one of the savvy and brave people capable of making their own lucky breaks happen.
You see other people having opportunities that you don’t, and you can feel like, “Wow, how come everybody else has all the luck?” But if you look carefully there are all these little things they have done that end up essentially attracting luck their way.
Most people are not appropriately appreciative of what other people do for them, and they take it for granted.
You make your own luck by identifying and developing opportunities in advance.
People conflate all three of those things and as a result, they think things are much more random than they are.
It’s like saying “Think outside the box.” Or even “Fortune favors the prepared mind.” These things that people say don’t have enough meat on the bone to give you anything to do with it.
In your own life, you have the responsibility and authority to do things to craft the life you want to live.

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Summary of “Why I can’t stop posting my kid’s photos and sharing him with the world”

The instinct has long been there; it’s just that it used to require a lot more overhead. In the 1970s, for example, there was the post-vacation slide show, in which relatives and friends of the lucky travelers had the bad luck to be buttonholed into two hours of photos with lengthy you-had-to-be-there anecdotes.
Instagram, Facebook and Twitter are also a way of flipping open your wallet to the world and saying, “Here’s my son Thomas, the person who brings me more happiness than I could ever have imagined.”
At work, I created a channel on the messaging application Slack where all I do is share photos and videos of Thomas, splashing my love for him onto everyone around me.
No picture of Thomas with a goofy expression in the bath.
Pictures of Thomas are taken indoors or in places either so abstract as to be unidentifiable or so popular that it doesn’t matter.
Where things are tricky isn’t in how I approach sharing images of Thomas but in how others do.
We ask people not to tag a location when they are taking pictures of Thomas, but it’s harder to ask them not to post images where he looks goofy.
Thomas was born into a world where his image was already mostly out of his control.

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