Summary of “24 life skills every adult should master before turning 30”

We’ve put together our own handbook of sorts for anyone transitioning from their 20s to their 30s, which lists many of the skills you’ll need to survive as an adult in the modern world.
Many of us fear the word “No” because we don’t want to let other people down.
People who lack the ability to empathize and take an interest in other people are often narcissists.
“Sometimes your body language tells people everything they need to know before you ever open your mouth,” writes Dean Bokhari.
Another, surprisingly simple, tactic is to simply spend more time with the people you’d like to befriend.
“It’s amazing how many people can’t do the simplest of things – like balance a checkbook, fill out a tax form, make sure that there’s more coming in than going out, [set] aside reserves for contingencies,” writes Miles Fidelman.
“[T]he ability to speak confidently to a large mass of people is a skill to be learnt,” writes Ramachandra Bhakta in a since-deleted answer.
Very few people in the study said they preferred standard pick-up lines – so it’s best to avoid those, no matter how clever you think you are.

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Summary of “An Advance Directive for Patients With Dementia”

When patients can no longer swallow what they are fed, they may choke and aspirate food or drink into the lungs, resulting in pneumonia that adds to their misery and hastens their death.
Dr. Schwarz’s advice: Complete her organization’s Advance Directive for Receiving Oral Food and Fluids in the Event of Dementia.
Dr. Anne Kenny, a geriatrician and palliative care specialist at the LiveWell Alliance in Plantsville, Conn., said, “With dementia, by the time you get to the point of having to decide what you want done, you’ve largely lost the capacity to do so. Many people don’t realize that making these choices in advance does not cause people to lose hope. It creates more hope because patients know their wishes would be heard and respected instead of deferring to the default position of the medical system, which is longevity at all costs.”Interviews with families have shown that 90 percent want comfort care at the end of life,” she said.
Dr. Kenny said three characteristics define the late stages of dementia, indicating that the patient is nearing the end of life: losing the ability to use the toilet, walk and swallow independently.
The patient, when completing the directive and appointing a health care agent, must be cognitively sound.
It offers two options for patients when they are no longer able to feed themselves or make informed decisions about their care.
Dr. Timothy E. Quill, professor of medicine in the Palliative Care Division of the University of Rochester School of Medicine, said that “if the directive leads to families and caregivers erring on the side of comfort and dignity for the patient, it’s a real step forward.
“If patients show a strong interest in eating and drinking, it should be given to them.

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Summary of “The 7 Habits: Begin With the End in Mind”

Because it distills what you ultimately value in life – or at least what you want to value – and what you hope it all adds up to in the end.
When we know how we want people to talk about us at the end of our life, we can start taking action now to make that scenario a reality later.
Those goals aren’t “Bad,” but you’ve probably adopted them mindlessly, and you’ll end up pursuing them merely as things to knock off on a checklist, without thought as to whether they’re what you want, and what difference they’ll make in your character – in who you want to be.
All his life Tolstoy, like Ilyich, strived for status, money, and security – résumé virtues – but it was only when he faced the specter of his death that he realized his great existential mistake.
You have to replace what you’ve been told to center your life on with timeless and unchanging principles and virtues that you want to embody.
Thinking about your general values can be a little abstract; they’re easier to grasp if you think about how you want them to influence the specific actions and spheres of your life.
Write out what values you want to embody in that role and what you want the people you affect in that role to say about you when you’re dead. Be as idealistic as you want.
Just as lawmakers and judges turn to the U.S. Constitution first when making decisions, you should turn to your personal constitution before you make big decisions in your life.

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Summary of “How Facebook Became the Tech Company People Love to Hate”

The headline change is a new privacy control that allows Facebook users to delete the information that Facebook has gleaned about their browsing habits.
Behind the scenes, Facebook has been in the most intense period of press outreach that I’ve ever seen: They’re ready to talk, ready to spar, ready to meet the challenge of what Zuckerberg referred to at F8 as a “Broader view of their responsibility” to the world.
Before he ran through the litany of things Facebook has done to bolster informational and electoral integrity, Zuckerberg gave a sense of his thinking about what Facebook means.
Facebook has closed the gap between who you are in the real world and what the machines have figured out about you.
Even in their more far-flung experiments in virtual reality, Facebook wants to defy distance, which is another way of saying they want to collapse the distinction between virtual and physical.
In the past, Facebook talked about wanting to be the “Identity” layer of the internet.
Facebook wanted to be the way “You” brought “Yourself” to various kinds of digital activities, from playing frivolous games to logging into crucial websites.
Now, Facebook wants to be the identity layer of everything as the company accelerates the merging of our digital and physical selves.

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Summary of “The 6 Questions I Ask Before I Say ‘Yes’ to Anything”

It’s okay to value your time and energy – in fact, it’s important.
While I really do love that someone wants to hear my message, I’ve learned how much effort goes into every time I get on stage and the true value that I bring.
Give yourself permission to value your time, even if that means turning down unpaid work.4.
Now, my team is 10 times more productive than I ever was as a solo-entrepreneur.
Beyond my physical time, I’ve allowed comparison and anxiety to completely drain my energy and leave no room for anything creative or meaningful.
Removing yourself doesn’t mean you’re falling behind, it’s actually refueling you to make better use of your time when you’re ready to work.
Most of the time, that space is too cluttered from being overly connected.
Being so hyper-connected all the time, it’s so easy to see snapshots into everyone’s lives and feel like you’re falling behind or you should be doing more.

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Summary of “How These 4 Different Personality Types Find Motivation”

Through research for her previous books, Rubin realized people fall into one of four distinct tendencies: obliger, questioner, rebel, and upholder.
Are you inner driven, outer driven or neither? You can take Rubin’s online quiz to learn your tendency, but you might recognize yourself based on their traits.
“Obligers need outer accountability to meet inner expectations,” says Rubin.
If you’re an obliger who is in a work environment that promotes autonomy or if you work for yourself you’ll have to create that accountability, says Rubin.
“Questioners have a hard time making decisions because they want more information,” says Rubin.
“Identity is so important to the rebel,” says Rubin.
Rubin is an upholder, which is why she had an easy time completing her Happiness Project.
You can do what you want to do once you decide, says Rubin.

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Summary of “Nobody Tells You How Long a Marriage Is”

I carried mine with me, grieving for something I wanted but could not have.
There would be a part of you that would want to stay with me, and a part of me that would want to stay with you, and we would leave the encounter devastated.
We could live in Amsterdam and run a little shop out of the ground floor of our home.
Always, we would fly back to Florida, back to our lives, and I would feel that sadness touching down.
So you slept beside me each night in the hospital, and went home each morning to shower and walk the dog.
You worked all day, went back home to the dog, and then to Whole Foods so I wouldn’t have to eat hospital food, and then came back to the hospital, and slept beside me once more.
“Wait,” you said, and shifted your pack onto your chest, and took my pack and lifted it onto your back.
When you fall in love, when you have fun with somebody, when you enjoy the way they see the world, nobody ever says, “This person will change. And so you will be married to two, three, four, five or 10 people throughout the course of your life, as you live out your vows.” Nobody warns you.

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Summary of “The Résumé: The Winding, Everlasting Career of William H. Macy”

“You know, as I get older I think we all should just fucking say it. Just say it,” he told me.
No. There’s a line in a Dave Mamet film, “Always tell the truth-it’s the easiest thing to remember. And I’ve got a bad memory.” You know, as I get older I think we all should just fucking say it.
As Felicity says, “Our goal is that everyone is blessed.” I think it gives you an edge up if you’re a person who says what he or she thinks and means it and will stand by it.
Which is sort of the essence of art, I think: If you can cut it and still tell your story, then you have to cut it.
So you’d think at the end of the day, “Well, I got praised for some work I don’t think is that good.” Or, “I did great work and nobody saw it.”
You have to convince people, “Wait, I’m an actor, too. Even though I lost my looks you can still hire me.” It doesn’t happen for some people.
Do you think that’s going to get better-or easier-for women moving forward?
I’ve always found at various times in a project, even if I’m just acting, it’s nice to smoke a fatty and think about the whole thing again.

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Summary of “Passing the Torch: Denzel Washington and Michael B. Jordan”

Like Mr. Washington, Mr. Jordan, 31, got his big break on television: on HBO’s “The Wire,” when he was just 15.
PHILIP GALANES If Mike reminds people of a young Denzel, who did young Denzel remind people of?
MICHAEL B. JORDAN The script tells you what’s going up on screen.
GALANES You probably made up for it with “Black Panther.” Why no superheroes for you, Denzel?
JORDAN That’s why I want to take care of my family now.
WASHINGTON The way I see it, I’m in the service business now.
WASHINGTON That’s why I’m here! That’s why I’m still in the race.
WASHINGTON What’s the harm in that? You’ll never see a U-Haul behind a hearse.

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Summary of “How Janelle Monáe Found Her Voice”

The public, she explained, doesn’t really “Know Janelle Monáe, and I felt like I didn’t really have to be her because they were fine with Cindi.” When Prince died in April 2016, she started to rethink how she would present herself.
Monáe will release an extended musical film with the album that illustrates and complements “Dirty Computer.” The 50-minute “Emotion picture,” as she calls it, follows a young woman, played by Monáe, on the run from an authoritarian government that hunts down so-called deviants and “Cleans” them by erasing their memories.
Longtime fans will recognize the parallels to Mayweather – which Monáe expects – but instead of focusing on a fictional male human lover, the object of her affection is the actress Tessa Thompson, with whom Monáe is frequently photographed in real life.
Monáe is media-savvy enough to protect herself from becoming tabloid fodder for publications that want to turn her personal life into spectacle or reduce her art to her sexuality.
Combs told Monáe that he wanted to introduce her to a larger audience.
The women had gathered for a brunch that Monáe was hosting for her “Fem the Future” project to support women in the entertainment industry.
Monáe had chosen three female filmmakers to make short films funded by Belvedere vodka that answered the question: What does a beautiful future look like? The event was nominally to celebrate them but more largely to gather in one room actors, writers, directors and producers Monáe admired.
Monáe had heard that Lucia McBath, the mother of Jordan Davis; Sybrina Fulton, the mother of Trayvon Martin; and Gwen Carr, the mother of Eric Garner, were going to be there, too, and she wanted to offer support.

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