Summary of “The Brutal Truth About Why Being a Leader Is So Hard”

Being a great leader is so much harder than it looks.
What’s difficult about leadership is that nobody ever sits you down and “Teaches” you what being a real leader is all about.
Even on sports teams, the leader is usually the best player-and wears a letter on his or her jersey as a trophy of their accomplishments.
That’s not what being a leader is all about.
As a leader, it’s up to you to put yourself second, and operate in a way that allows others to feel at ease, others to feel understood, others to work in the way that’s best for them-even if it’s not the way you operate.
What makes this mentality so difficult is that, in every capacity, it asks that you, as a leader, put yourself last.
You, as a leader, have to take a step back from your impulsive, emotional reactions, and instead operate from a place of calm understanding.
It’s learned through diligent self-inquiry, and constantly practicing the art of being flexible in the way you communicate and lead others.

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Summary of “Brain Hacking: 7 Steps to Upgrade Your Mind’s Software”

Er, our beliefs are like the software that runs on the computer.
Our beliefs, whether we’re aware of them or not, affect everything in our life.
We look for evidence to confirm what we already believe, while ignoring information that discredits our current beliefs.
In his brilliant book Poor Charlie’s Almanack, Charlie Munger points out that throughout history, many of the world’s most successful people were very wary of their confirmation bias, and actually went out of their way to challenge their own beliefs.
We set up experiments to test out our own beliefs.
Ask yourself: “What is the thought that’s creating that emotion?” Ask yourself: “What is the belief that’s creating that thought?” Now that you’ve isolated your belief, set up an experiment to test its validity.
Analyze the results and confirm or discredit the old belief.
The thought is: “I have so much to do. If I don’t work today, I’ll fall behind on schedule.” The belief is: “The only way to reach my full potential and achieve my goals is to work as hard as possible.” What would I do if this belief was false and the opposite was true? I would work less and relax more.

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Summary of “The Benefits of Saying Nice Things About Your Colleagues”

When we introduce two colleagues, tell a story about how a meeting went, or share a colleague’s work, how we “Narrate others” can make a big difference in how they feel about themselves and their work.
So how can we take advantage of the opportunities to narrate our colleagues in ways that cultivate positive self-meaning? Here are four opportunities to consider, along with examples from our research.
We know first impressions matter, so use introductions as a way to positively narrate your colleagues.
Describe your colleagues positively if they are socially undermined.
Use endings and exits to craft a positive portrait of colleagues.
Sipho felt hurt and disconnected from his colleagues.
Understanding the tough situation he was in, his colleagues put together a box filled with pictures and notes reflecting on their positive memories of working with him.
Every day we have opportunities to help others create positive meaning in how we communicate about our colleagues.

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Summary of “The Lost Arts of the Outdoors”

Sure, you know how to use Google Maps to get your overstuffed Subaru to a car-camping site.
As our recreation habits evolve, we risk losing other skills teetering on the brink of obscurity-like how to navigate sans phone or weather spells of boredom without it.
Start a Fire Pitching a tent, healing a wound, and finding your way are about the most important things you can learn how to do.
As for my own excursions into the outdoors, they produce entropy in such abundance that I even lose the list of things I’ve lost.
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Go Anywhere Outside From rafting trips to big-wall climbs, here’s how to do it just about anywhere outdoors.
Ford a River Advice from a longtime NOLS instructor on when and how to cross a river, without drowning.
Learning to deal with delays is just as important as knowing how to tie a figure-eight knot.

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Summary of “What’s the quickest way to learn a language?”

Instead, you should look at your mobile the other way around: as a way to supercharge your foreign-language learning.
For the beginning language learner, there are no miraculous ways around learning grammar and vocabulary.
Learning to speak means being able to call to mind rules and vocabulary in an instant.
Rosetta Stone, much marketed, now offers a competitive subscription price, but its approach of teaching through pictures, without ever using the learner’s native language, is best kept for easy European languages.
If learning Spanish, French, Italian or German, try “News in Slow Spanish”, a subscription service with weekly news broadcasts in realistic language, but read at a slower clip.
Take it in short chunks: much better to learn one minute of audio perfectly than five minutes with poor comprehension.
Go over the cards at the end of each day, remembering the context in which you learned the word.
One easy way is through Italki, a social network which will help you find both trained teachers and more informal “Tutors”: both can be inexpensive, the latter especially so, and this unstructured but guided conversation practice is exactly what the intermediate learner needs.

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Summary of “How the “Gangnam Style” Video Became a Global Pandemic”

The outbreak begins at a specific place and time and then spreads in a wavelike pattern away from the source.
Such as songs, tweets, videos, and so on, are thought to spread in a similar way.
Today, Zsofia Kallus and pals at Eotvos University in Budapest, Hungary, say they have found just such an example in the way that Psy’s Gangnam Style video spread across the globe in 2012, eventually becoming the first to receive over a billion views on YouTube.
The team say it is possible to recover the unique wavelike signature of information spreading, providing they properly take account of the social networks involved.
To do this, they tracked the spread of the video by searching the historical Twitter stream for geolocated tweets that mention “Gangnam Style.” “Location information allows us to record the approximate arrival time of a certain news to a specific geo-political region,” say Kallus and co.
The spread of the video when plotted against geographic distance from South Korea looks more or less random.
That’s interesting work that shows how the spread of modern memes occurs in just the same way as ancient diseases.
So the “Gangnam Style” video pandemic spread in exactly the same way as bubonic plague!

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Summary of “How to Build Resilience in Midlife”

Last year Dr. Dennis Charney, a resilience researcher and dean of the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City, was leaving a deli when he was shot by a disgruntled former employee.
“After 25 years of studying resilience, I had to be resilient myself,” said Dr. Charney, co-author of the book “Resilience: The Science of Mastering Life’s Greatest Challenges.” “It’s good to be prepared for it, but it’s not too late once you’ve been traumatized to build the capability to move forward in a resilient way.”
Here are some of the ways you can build your resilience in middle age.
“Part of resilience is taking responsibility for your life, and for creating a life that you consider meaningful and purposeful. It doesn’t have to be a big mission – it could be your family. As long as what you’re involved in has meaning to you, that can push you through all sorts of adversity.”
Times of manageable stress present an opportunity to build your resilience.
“You have to change the way you look at stress,” said Jack Groppel, co-founder of the Johnson & Johnson Human Performance Institute, which recently began offering a course on resilience.
“That’s how we build the resilience muscle.”
You can build your resilience by putting yourself in challenging situations.

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Summary of “Your Best Tips for Beating Procrastination”

My trick is to imagine my future self and to do things for this future self – “Connie of the Future.” I picture how grateful Connie of the Future will be if I’ve laid out work clothes for next week, or done food prep for that night in the morning, or answered an email that Connie of the Present doesn’t feel like doing.
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Summary of “The Secret to Interpersonal Happiness”

Let’s take a brief look at the ill-intentioned way of seeing things, then go into what I believe will transform most people’s interpersonal happiness – the good-hearted view.
That’s because we’re looking at it from our own point of view, and thinking they should see things the same way as you do.
Your interpretation might be that they are wrong, but that’s only one way of seeing it.
Not an excuse, but more of a way to understand people’s behavior.
If we can see this, perhaps we can see the other person in a more kind light, and react to them in a more helpful way.
These are just a few options, but you can see that these actions are much more helpful for the relationship, for the other person, and for our own happiness.
You might say, “Well, isn’t this just rewarding or excusing their bad behavior?” That’s one way to see it, but I believe it’s more about not getting caught up in our own self-centered view, and not engaging in unhelpful and harmful patterns of thought.
You just might find some happiness in a difficult situation.

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