Summary of “Building better men: how we can begin to redefine masculinity”

We need to shift from an intervention mindset – trying to shift young men’s conceptions of masculinity after they’ve already been formed – to a prevention mindset in which we help boys develop healthier ideas about gender to start with.
Research suggests middle school could be an ideal time to inoculate boys against toxic masculinity.
Middle school boys’ ability to resist traditional masculine norms is relatively strong, but weakens when they get to high school.
Maine Boys to Men, a program that has long worked with high school boys, is developing a curriculum for middle school boys that teaches them to see and sidestep the rigid gender roles they’re already growing into.
MBTM adapted its high school curriculum for a middle school audience and tested it during the 2015-2016 academic year, reaching just over 500 boys in southern Maine.
The idea is simple: the group leader draws a big box on the chalkboard, and the boys brainstorm stereotypes of masculinity.
The completed visual serves as a jumping off point to discuss how confining traditional masculinity can be and how harmful to both boys and girls, both men and women.
Feedback from the middle school boys is almost universally positive, with most of them saying they’re going to change the way they talk to people or adjust their judgments about how others do gender.

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Summary of “The skin care wars, explained”

Writing about skin care used to be confined to beauty blogs and glossy magazines; now, it’s increasingly showing up at major mainstream outlets that don’t have a mandate to cover “Beauty” or “Women’s issues.” Jia Tolentino and Rachel Syme are writing about skin care for the New Yorker’s website.
Critical think pieces about skin care abound, and they tend to hit the same beats: Is skin care exploitative? Is it a waste of money? Is it misogynistic? Or is it the backlash against skin care that is truly misogynistic?
The rise of skin care coincides with the corporatization of self-care It would be disingenuous say that skin care was “Taken over” by corporations, because skin care in its modern form has always been corporate: It is inherently about putting money on your face, often at a huge markup.
As skin care and self-care became more and more intertwined in popular discourse, skin care marketers took note.
“An effective and efficient skin care routine is a therapeutic process that will help you feel your best. We believe in the power of skin care as a self-care ritual, and want to enable you to dedicate downtime to focus solely on yourself.”
Skin care is about having pristinely clear pores and perfect porcelain skin tone, and while women en masse are not stupid or bad for aspiring to those goals, it’s undeniable that setting those goals for women has made a lot of rich white men a whole lot of money.
Before embracing the language of self-care and wellness to sell their products, skin care corporations explicitly played on women’s insecurities: stop that blackhead, fight those wrinkles, kick that pimple’s butt because your skin is unacceptable as it is.
Beauty is labor, but our culture shames us whenever we acknowledge that fact The Outline’s “Skincare con” article argues that skin care is a modern scam, and that women who spend money on skin care are being cheated by massive corporations that offer nothing but snake oil.

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Summary of “Feminists have slowly shifted power. There’s no going back”

In this case, by 2012, a new generation of young women was not going to be intimidated by either shame or bureaucracy from talking about campus rape and, more than that, organising against it.
Social media gave women a capacity to form a sort of Greek chorus when a story about gender violence erupted.
Feminists have slowly, steadily gained power – and by feminists I mean everyone of whatever gender who thinks first that women deserve full equality and second that systematic misogyny remains a grave problem.
That’s where we can look to the long, slow work of feminism to put women in positions of power, in concert with the related work to change the racial makeup of who holds power.
Farrow is, of course, not a woman; the shift is not only women in positions of power but anyone who believes that women deserve equality in access to power, credibility and justice.
A friend recently told me about a major media outlet where women report that after some harassers were fired, people are feeling more confident, inspired and creative.
We have had too many stories about men who don’t feel comfortable because things are changing, rather than women who feel more comfortable than they ever have before, for the same reason.
We are going to return to a phase in which change happens slowly and subtly enough that it is invisible to most people, though not to the people who take the long view and those who drive the change or who benefit from one small change in their home or workplace or relationship.

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Summary of “An OurTime.Com Con Man and the Women Who Busted Him”

When Missi googled Derek Alldred, half a dozen mug shots of Richie-Derek-popped up, alongside news articles with alarming phrases such as career con man and long history of deception.
Because her name was one of the only searchable ones linked to his, women who’d been scammed by Derek reached out to Cindi through Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn.
Derek seems to have preferred intelligent women; his victims included a doctor and a couple of women who worked in tech.
All together, Derek seems to have scammed at least a dozen women out of about $1 million since 2010.
Even women who weren’t struggling when they met Derek soon found their lives destabilized by the chaos he brought-they lost jobs, had panic attacks, became estranged from family members.
Even Derek’s victims, who understand better than anyone else how these things work, repeatedly questioned one another’s choices when speaking with me: How did she let it go on that long, why did she let him move in when she barely knew him, how did she not see through this or that obvious lie? It’s a testament to the persistent belief that cons always happen to someone else that women who had fallen for Derek Alldred’s schemes heard other victims’ very similar stories and thought, I never would have fallen for that.
Derek entwined their lives without their consent, taking Missi out on the boat he’d bought with Linda’s money; showing Missi photos of Linda’s son, his “Nephew.” Initially, there was some slight underlying tension between the two women due to the fact that Derek hadn’t stolen any money from Missi, while he’d drained more than $200,000 from Linda’s retirement account.
Joy had floated the theory that Missi was the one Derek “Really” cared for, an idea that Linda dismissed out of hand: “That man is not capable of love.”

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Summary of “Why Isn’t the World a Matriarchy?”

Women live 5 to 8 years longer, and their careers tend to have more variety over their lifespans.
Whereas the women, on average, were more concerned with fairness: that members of society should not go without what they needed, and that they had a role to play in ensuring that fairness.
There were more men in STEM careers than there were women.
The weight of the evidence shows that most women and men are pretty similar on average, and that the differences are more evident at the extremes.
Fewer women than men were unemployed, and fewer women committed suicide due to financial losses and a complete loss of identity.
3 What they found was that the more gender equal a country was, as determined by the World Economic Forum’s Global Gender Gap Report, the fewer women ultimately took up STEM paths in college.
In contrast, countries with almost no protections, with few guarantees for women and where life satisfaction is low-such as Algeria, Tunisia, the United Arab Emirates, Turkey, and Albania-had by far the highest representation of women in STEM, approaching the researchers’ estimates of 41 percent, based on how well girls do in math and science in high school, without considering their other skills.
“If the environment offers options for a good life in multiple domains of work, then girls choose to pursue what they are best at relative to their other abilities. This might be STEM, or it might be law, for example. However, if the environment offers limited options and if the best options are in STEM careers, girls tend to focus more on their skills in STEM. The key is that girls and women are making choices that maximize their success, and these choices are not always for careers in STEM.” In places where girls and women feel they have the freedom to make their own choices, in other words, they are more likely to act on their personal strengths and interests.

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Summary of “New Guidelines Redefine Birth Years for Millennials, Gen-X, and ‘Post-Millennials'”

HARRIET TUBMAN // MOSES OF THE UNDERGROUND RAILROAD. How has there not been a prestige pic about the life and times of Harriet Tubman? After nearly 30 years of abuse and subjugation, Tubman followed the North Star to escape slavery.
Over 10 years, she made 19 trips back into the South, freeing an estimated 300 people.
Smith persevered, focused on her education and rehabilitation, and made a life for herself as a performer and author, penning a memoir in which she forgave her deeply flawed dad. 5.
OLIVE THOMAS // THE FLAPPER GHOST. Looking for a fanciful ghost story about the girl whose charm and fashion sense helped popularize the word flapper? This all-American ingĂ©nue made the leap from Ziegfeld Follies showgirl to Hollywood starlet, even marrying the brother of America’s Sweetheart Mary Pickford.
Her story lived on, as rumors spread that her sassy ghost took up residence in her old haunt, the New Amsterdam Theater.
“France made me what I am. I will be grateful forever. The people of Paris have given me everything. They have given me their hearts, and I have given them mine. I am ready, Captain, to give my life. You can use me as you wish.”
Over the course of three years, these young women flew 30,000 missions and dropped 23,000 tons of bombs on the invading Nazi forces.
Even more remarkable, these fighter pilots favored the cover of night for their attacks, and flew planes made of plywood and canvas-all the better to silently sneak up on German bombers.

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Summary of “Need a Date? First, Get a Dog”

In another series of experiments, men had more luck getting a woman’s phone number if they had a dog with them, and both men and women had more luck panhandling when they had a dog with them.
Another study found that when women heard vignettes about men who acted like “Cads” who were uninterested in a long-term commitment, they rated the men more highly if they owned a dog.
For single people who own pets – and more and more young singles do – pet ownership may even make or break a relationship, according to a 2015 survey that Dr. Fisher and her colleagues conducted among more than 1,200 Match.com pet-owning subscribers.
Nearly one-third of respondents said they had been “More attracted to someone” because they had a pet.
More than half said they would find someone more attractive if they knew he or she had adopted a pet.
More than half said they would not date someone who did not like pets.
As more young adults postpone marriage and children and remain single for longer, he said, they may view their pets as one of the more stable and long-lasting aspects of their life.
Whether dog owners truly are more empathetic and nurturing than those who don’t own pets is harder to ascertain.

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Summary of “China Dropped Its One-Child Policy. So Why Aren’t Chinese Women Having More Babies?”

One-child policy, two-child policy – whatever the demographic program, the C.C.P. continues to view women as the reproductive agents of the state, as instruments of implementation for its eugenic development agenda.
At the same time, the government discourages unmarried women from having babies – by way of fines and administrative hurdles – because it sees marriage and family as a pillar of social stability.
As far back as 2007, it was trying to stigmatize women who remained single after the age of 27, calling them sheng nu, “Leftover” women.
Even as officials urge college-educated, Han Chinese women to marry and get pregnant, they are discouraging, sometimes through coercion, ethnic minorities with high birthrates – particularly Uighurs in the northwestern region of Xinjiang – from having more children.
Last summer, government officials invoked “Ethnic equality” to announce the end of a longstanding exception that had allowed Uighurs and other groups to have one more child than families from the Han majority.
Many Han women, for example, are pushing back against the government’s singles-shaming and its continued attempt at reproductive social engineering.
In a May 2017 survey of more than 40,000 working women by Zhaopin, one of China’s largest online recruitment websites, about 40 percent of respondents who had no children said they did not want to have any, and nearly 63 percent of working mothers with one child said they did not want to have another one.
The women surveyed said that the main reasons for these positions were lack of time and energy, the expense of raising children and “Concerns over career development.”

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Summary of “Pushing back: why it’s time for women to rewrite the story”

Gaslighting is about women fighting to get men to see their point of view.
Storytelling is a key battleground: for years women used “Whisper networks”, gossip as self-protection, warning each other about dangerous, powerful men; this time, controversially, lists were produced and circulated.
Even before they die, female characters often barely exist, as in Ernest Hemingway’s A Farewell to Arms, when Catherine Barkley informs Frederic Henry: “There isn’t any me. I’m you. Don’t make up a separate me.” Or they don’t make it into the story at all: women appear on approximately two of Moby-Dick’s more than 600 pages.
Some of the worst culprits are not the misogynists of old but men telling stories in the very decades that women were making real political and professional gains.
Women are endlessly told to admire books about men who come across as borderline sociopaths, and only care about how people perceive them.
Women don’t have that option: if we read, we must read about men; if we think, we must think about what men think.
Patriarchy instils doubt about women – in men and women alike.
In Gas Light, Hamilton draws on the tradition of the gothic novel, in which women trapped in intimidating and isolated surroundings are terrorised by powerful men who may or may not turn out to be sympathetic.

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Summary of “‘Strong’ Black Woman? ‘Smart’ Asian Man? The Downside To Positive Stereotypes”

‘Strong’ Black Woman? ‘Smart’ Asian Man? The Downside To Positive Stereotypes : Code Switch It’s not hard to spin a positive stereotype as a compliment.
We’ve all heard a so-called “Positive” stereotype: black people are good at basketball; Italians are great cooks; women are natural nurturers.
A lot of positive stereotypes, Kay says, are tied to negative ones.
Positive stereotypes don’t just affect how people are perceived by others.
Jennifer Lee, a sociology professor at University of California, Irvine, has written that people who don’t live up to positive stereotypes often “Feel like failures.”
Even the people who do live up to positive stereotypes can’t win.
Because, positive stereotypes can have dangerous, material consequences.
For example: the stereotype of the strong black woman.

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